Questions about marriage, divorce, and remarriage
What should happen in an unlawful marriage?
- Luke 16:18
- I Corinthians 6:9
- They must divorce and repent of their adultery.
- “But marriage itself is holy. No one should be told to divorce.”
- Ezra 9-10 – Unlawful marriages were broken up.
- Mark 6:17-18
Are divorced people still “married in God’s eyes”?
- I know of no passage that uses or implies that wording or concept. Sometimes we might say that because we’re trying to communicate the fact that God doesn’t approve.
- Luke 16:18
- Romans 7:2-3 – This is clearer language: “bound by law,” “joined.”
- Mark 10:11-12
- Matthew 19:9
What about marriages and divorces before one was ever a Christian?
- God’s laws are for everyone, Christians and non-Christians.
- I Corinthians 6:9-11 – Adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God.
- “such were some of you” – some of the Corinthians had evidently gotten out of adulterous situations
- If God’s laws do not apply to non-Christians, why are people told to repent before they are baptized (Acts 2:38)?
- And why would you even get baptized and become a Christian, if prior to that you have no sin and therefore no need of salvation?
Does forgiveness change the situation?
- Acts 2:38; 8:22; 26:20
- If I steal a car …
- Then I pray for forgiveness …
- Can I keep the car?
- No – it is still a sin for me to have it.
- If I take an unlawful wife …
- Then I pray for forgiveness …
- Can I keep the wife?
- No – it is still a sin for me to have her.
Does I Corinthians 7:15 give another exception to God’s marriage law?
- “bondage”: “enslaved” (ESV, LSB) or “servitude” (YLT)
- There is no permission for remarriage here.
Does I Corinthians 7:27-28 give another exception?
- I Corinthians 7:25-28 – Paul was saying that because of the current situation, it was not a good time to get married.
- What does “released” mean? It can’t mean, “divorced for any reason” because that would contradict I Corinthians 7:10-11 and many other verses.
- “Released” may be better translated “free.”
Can the innocent party divorce years after the divorce?
- A man divorces his wife (not for fornication).
- Years later, he remarriages.
- Can the first wife now divorce him for fornication and remarry with God’s approval (Matthew 19:9)?
- No. You can’t divorce someone you’re not married to.
Conclusion
- Nothing is GREATER than fellowship with God; nothing lasts LONGER than Heaven.