Classes - Benchley church of Christ

DW

December 04, 2016

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  • Train children to pursue Biblical goals (continued):
    • Don’t commit “The Eli Mistake”
    • The more consistent we are, the better
      • Numbers 23:19 – God is perfectly consistent, but that doesn’t mean He never changed His plans.
      • Galatians 1:6-9
    • Clear, specific instructions are helpful.
      • Proverbs 7:1, 6-10, 17-27
    • Discipline should be appropriate, but severe enough to make a difference.
      • Remember the final goal of discipline. Hebrews 12:11
    • Look for opportunities to develop character starting at birth, and enrich these over time.
      • Ecclesiastes 12:1
      • II Timothy 3:15
      • I Samuel 17:42-45
      • II Chronicles 34:3
    • Teaching: God is powerful
      • Hebrews 1:3; Colossians 1:17
  • Train children to love God
    • Examples of faith
      • Noah – Genesis 6:9
      • Job – Job 2:3
      • David – Acts 13:22; Psalms 18:1
      • Abraham – James 2:23
      • These me all believed God was with them all the time, loved Him, and wanted to serve Him.
    • We must instill the proper motivation.
      • What’s wrong with just raising our kids to know that if they misbehave, they will be punished?

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JJ

November 30, 2016

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  • I Corinthians 12:28-13:7
  • I Corinthians 12:28 – “Helps” and “administrations” wouldn’t necessarily be miraculous gifts. “Administrations” is translated from a word meaning “guides” or “guidance.” The meaning here could just be referring to work like what elders and deacons do.
  • I Corinthians 12:31 – Some spiritual gifts were evidently better than others, but love is better than the best of the gifts.
  • I Corinthians 13:4 – Love never brags and shows arrogance, like the Pharisee praying (Luke 18:10-14). Love exhibits the attitude shown in Matthew 23:8.
  • I Corinthians 13:5 – Love seeks the welfare of the other person.
  • I Corinthians 13:6 – Love does not rejoice in sin. Surely all have been guilty of this at some point.
  • I Corinthians 13:7 – Love will cause us to believe the best about someone until it is proven that we no longer can.

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Sermons - Benchley church of Christ

JJ

November 27, 2016

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  • Mark 14:54-59, 66-72
  • Effectiveness is proportionate to distance. James 4:8. Peter demonstrated the danger of distance. He weakened and would not stand by Jesus. He lied. He cursed and swore. Notice the relation in these things:
    • Followed afar
    • Lied
    • Cursed and swore
  • John 2:15-16
  • Ways we may follow afar:
    • Doing that which is not inherently wrong, but doing it to the detriment of following God.
    • Partial obedience. Some obey first principles but then refuse to accept and follow other things God requires of us. Some preach the truth of God’s word but refuse to apply and live by what they are preaching.
  • The lack of effectiveness of one who follows afar
    • He’s lost his influence for good.
  • What caused Peter to follow afar?
    • Fear of the mob.
    • He didn’t have enough faith in and love for Jesus.
  • What does Jesus think of one who follows afar?
    • Luke 9:61-62
  • The end result of following afar
    • Do not try to serve the Lord from afar. If you do not enjoy close proximity with the Lord now, do you think you will in eternity?

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DW

November 27, 2016

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  • Luke 7:36-50
  • “If this man were a prophet …”
    • Do I have false expectations for others?
    • Hebrews 13:17 – What makes a good elder?
    • II Timothy 4:2-4 – What makes a good preacher?
    • Titus 2:4 – What makes a good parent?
  • “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”
    • Luke 7:48-50
    • Luke 18:13
    • Do I throw myself at the feet of Jesus?
    • Matthew 5:23-24 – When is the last time you really apologized?
    • When is the last time you confessed sin?
    • I John 1:8
  • “Who is this man who even forgives sins?”
    • Luke 7:49
    • Do I have mountains of love for Jesus?
    • Hebrews 10:29
    • Psalms 103:8-13

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Classes - Benchley church of Christ

DW

November 27, 2016

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  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love (continued):
    • Employ a radical amount of tough love (continued):

      • Say whatever it takes (continued):

        • Are there some pitfalls parents should avoid? (continued)
          • Being hypocritical. Romans 2:1
        • Psalm 119:11 – We should use the Bible when we talk with our kids.
        • II Timothy 3:16 – Parents should use the Bible when talking with their kids both in good times and bad. Children should not lean to dread times when the Bible comes out.

      • Diana Baumrind’s research

        • Baumrind is a psychologist who began studying parenting styles back in the 1960s.
        • She emphasized two measures of parenting:
          • Responsiveness – how responsive parents are to children’s needs
          • Demandingness – how much parents expect children to mature, learn responsibility, and follow rules
          • These correspond to our study of Biblical parenting: tender love and tough love.
        • Baumrind’s Parenting Styles

        Responsiveness (tough love)

        High

        Permissive parents

        Authoritative parents

        (These parents tend to turn out great kids!)

        Low

        Neglectful parents

        Authoritarian parents

        Low

        High

        Demandingness (tough love)

        • God’s Parenting Styles

        Responsiveness (tough love)

        High

        “a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother” Proverbs 29:15

        “love their children” Titus 2:4; “bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4

        Low

        “he who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently” Proverbs 13:24

        “Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart” Colossians 3:21

        Low

        High

        Demandingness (tough love)

      • Proverbs 1:8-9; 6:20-21 – Father and mother should be a balanced parenting team.

  • Train children to pursue Biblical goals
    • Envision long-term goals and work toward them.
      • Proverbs 22:6 reminds parents to look forward to when the child is old.
      • Hebrews 12:11 – notice the difference between discipline in the moment and afterward.
    • Five things we want of our children
      • To love God
      • To love others
      • To know God’s word
      • To respect and obey authority
      • To develop moral excellence
    • Don’t commit “The Eli Mistake”
      • Eli was basically a good, religious man.
        • He served as Israel’s High Priest and judge. I Samuel 1:9; 4:18
        • He respected God’s word. I Samuel 3:18
        • He was bold. I Samuel 1:12-14
        • His kids were involved in religious activities. I Samuel 1:3; 4:4
        • He was compassionate. I Samuel 2:11, 20
      • But now, let’s notice the bad news about Eli and his sons.
        • Hophni and Phineas were sinners! I Samuel 2:12-17
        • Eli certainly didn’t approve of their behavior, and scolded them. I Samuel 2:22-25
        • Still, God said Eli honored his sons above God. I Samuel 2:29
        • God pronounced judgment on Eli’s house because, as a father, he knew his sons were doing wrong but “he did not rebuke them.” I Samuel 3:13
      • Parenting should focus on the end result.
        • Eli was a good man in several ways. He was upset with his sons’ behavior and scolded them. None of that changed the fact that he just didn’t go far enough as a father!
        • We must do more than worry, wring our hands, be upset, or scold our kids. We must bring every ounce of tender love and tough love to bear until we bring about positive change.

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