Godly Families, Part 7

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 4, 2016

  • Men: lead and sacrifice with love (continued)
    • A father must lead his children (continued)
      • Fathers are specifically warned about exasperating their children. Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 4:26; James 3:9
      • Beware of hypocrisy. Matthew 23:3
        • If you don’t want your child to do something, don’t do it yourself.
        • Lead by example. The best way to raise children who are atheists and agnostics is to be a hypocrite.
      • Don’t be preoccupied with money or a career. Luke 12:15-23; 16:13; I Timothy 6:10-11
      • Don’t expect surrogates to fulfill your responsibilities.
        • Fathers must do more than just earn a paycheck. I Timothy 3:4-5
          • Consider the work an elder would be doing. Titus 1:9; Hebrews 13:17; I Peter 5:2-3
        • Women: love your husbands, love your children
          • A wife is responsible for subjecting herself to her husband.
            • Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-33; Titus 2:4-5
          • Submitting to a leader does not mean one is inferior in value.
            • Woman was created to be man’s “helper.” Genesis 2:18-20
              • Who is called a helper in Psalms 115:9-11 and John 14:26?
            • Likewise, man being called her “head” does not mean she is less valuable, either.
              • I Corinthians 11:3; Philippians 2:5-8
            • A wife is of equal value but must fill her role as a helper, letting her husband fill his role as the head.

Godly Families, Part 2

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By David Watson

Benchley, July 31, 2016

  • Lesson 1, continued:
    • It’s never too early to study the Bible truth relating to the family.
      • II Chronicles 34:1-3 – Josiah was only 16 when he began to seek God.
    • It’s never too late to study the family. Titus 2:3-5
    • Apply God’s work to yourself!
      • Who might we blame when we mess up?
        • Genesis 3:12-13 – Adam blames everyone but himself.
        • Proverbs 19:3 – The foolish blame the Lord.
      • In Ephesians 5:22-33 …
        • Find where the husband is told to make his wife submit.
        • Find where the wife is told to make her husband lead.
        • (This doesn’t mean we should never try to teach / encourage others to fulfill their roles.)
      • Matthew 7:1-5; James 1:22
    • Ephesians 4:22-24; II Peter 1:5-8; 3:18
    • Since the 1960s, the rate of new marriages has fallen by more than 50%. Rates of divorce and single parenthood have more than doubled.  The trend of cohabitation is not making families stronger.
    • The importance of developing a good marriage:
      • Marriage is the bedrock of a family and families are the bedrock of a society.
        • Genesis 2:18-24
        • Genesis 18:20 – God was not pleased with Sodom and Gomorrah.
        • Malachi 2:13-16 – God cares about the family!
        • Jamestown, 1607
        • Oneida Community, 1848-1879
        • Matthew 19:4-9 – God’s strict marriage law. From the beginning, it was to be a permanent relationship.

Godly Marriage

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By Jason Garcia

April 27, 2016

  • God’s design
    • One man, one woman – Matthew 19:4-6
    • To be “held in honor” – Hebrews 13:4
    • Life-long – Romans 7:2
    • God is a witness – Matthew 2:13-16
      • Proverbs 1:8; 6:20; 23:22
    • Developing a godly marriage
      • Godly marriages are Christ-centered – Ephesians 5:22-29
        • God first, then your spouse (even after children enter the picture!)
      • Parents cannot teach and model what they do not believe – Deuteronomy 6:5-6
      • Our children must see how marriage works – I Peter 3:1-2, 7
      • A godly spouse will help and not hinder
        • Worship – I Corinthians 7:4-5; I Peter 3:7
        • Your calling, evangelism – Ephesians 4:1-3; Acts 18:26
        • Teaching efforts, accountability – Ezra 10:3; Acts 5:2, 9
        • A godly marriage has a common standard – Amos 3:3; II Timothy 3:15-17
        • Odds are against ungodly marriage – I Kings 11:4; Nehemiah 13:26
        • Be careful not to undermine each other’s authority – Colossians 3:20; Ephesians 6:1
        • Children won’t fix a struggling marriage – Genesis 29:31-35
      • Psalm 127 – Like arrows, children must be aimed and released. Children are a solemn spiritual responsibility.
      • Ezekiel 18:20 – We will all stand in judgment for our own deeds, but children generally go in the direction their parents lead them.
      • Proverbs 22:6

Avoiding Dysfunction

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 26, 2016

  • I Samuel 2:12-25; II Samuel 13-18
  • Family dysfunction
    • The family of Eli
      • Eli: Judge, high priest, father – I Samuel 1:3, 9; 4:18
      • Hophni and Phinehas: Priests, no moral character – I Samuel 2:12
      • Hophni and Phinehas abused priesthood/people – I Samuel 2:13-16
      • Irreverent, immoral, rebellios – I Samuel 2:17, 22, 25
    • David, Absalom, Amnon, Tamar
      • Absalom rapes Tamar – II Samuel 13:1, 13-14
      • Absalom’s hatred grows – II Samuel 13:20-22
      • Absalom revels, executed – II Samuel 13-18
    • Lessons for parents
      • Family priorities
        • Vigilance in instruction, discipline – I Kings 1:6
        • Too busy for the kingdom? Matthew 6:31-33
      • Maintain discipline
        • Eli failed – I Samuel 2:24-25; 3:13
        • Beyond redemption point – Proverbs 19:18
          • Hebrews 6:6
        • Fight passivity – II Samuel 13:21
          • Luke 10:42
          • Work through difficulty – II Samuel 14:28
        • Love without partiality
          • Misplaced devotion – I Samuel 2:29
          • Feeding sibling rivalry – Genesis 25:27-28
        • Heed the warnings – I Samuel 2:22; II Samuel 12:21

Discipline of the Lord

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 25, 2016

  • Hebrews 12:7-11
  • Discipline is necessary and unpleasant – Proverbs 19:18; Hebrews 12:11
  • Discipline has a purpose and goal
    • Purges evil and purifies the heart – Proverbs 20:30
    • Drives out folly and foolishness – Proverbs 22:15
    • Corrects condemning behavior – Proverbs 23:13-14
      • Exodus 21:20 – Compare the word “rod” here. The rod of discipline is painful!
    • Imparts wisdom and prevents shame – Proverbs 29:15-17; 17:25
      • Discipline early while there is hope! Proverbs 19:18
    • The goal is holiness and righteousness – Hebrews 12:7-11
  • Discipline MUST be motivated by love – Proverbs 3:11-12
  • Discipline and love linked – Proverbs 13:24
  • Unloving punishment is destruction – Ephesians 6:4
  • The Bible and discipline
Child abuse Godly discipline
Unfair, unexpected Fair, expected
Degrading, demoralizing Balanced, reasonable
Leaves permanent damage, scars Painful, no permanent damage
Motivated by hatred, emotional damage Motivated by love, emotional security
  • Administering discipline
    • Start early – Proverbs 19:18
    • Stay balanced – Proverbs 29:15
      • Use the rod and reproof – Proverbs 3:11-12
      • Verbal (not shouting, Galatians 5:20)
      • Sometimes it is sufficient – Proverbs 17:10
    • Corporal (the rod)
      • Never to vent anger (Ephesians 4:26)
      • Distinguish immaturity vs defiance
      • Be consistent, avoid extremes
      • Administer privately
      • Don’t delay – Ecclesiastes 8:11
      • Decide with your spouse
      • Pray for wisdom – Proverbs 2:6
      • Discipline by the Word of God – Ephesians 6:4
      • Seek godly counsel – Proverbs 15:22
    • The naysayers
      • Apply God’s pattern, expect ridicule – II Timothy 3:12
      • “Spanking is abuse, ya know”
      • “Your kids are just learning to hit others” – Colossians 3:20
    • Discipline’s reward
      • Discipline will be well worth the effort – Proverbs 10:1; 29:17
        • Eli’s regret – II Samuel 2:17, 24; 3:13
        • Lasting righteousness, holiness – Proverbs 22:6

Focusing on Mothers

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 24, 2016

  • Proverbs 31:10-31
  • The keeper of the house – Titus 2:3-5
    • Isaiah 66:13; Psalms 31:2
    • A mother’s priority should be the house.
    • Psalms 127:3 – Godly mothers will view their children as rewards from God.
    • II Timothy 5:14
  • A spiritual guide and example – Proverbs 31:26-30
    • A woman of sincere faith – II Timothy 1:5
    • A loving teacher – Titus 2:4-5; Proverbs 6:20-23
    • Wields influence – II Chronicles 22:2-4
      • Hebrews 11:23-27 – Moses’ parents were not afraid of the king’s edict because of their faith.
    • Practices discipline – Proverbs 29:15; 13:24

Focusing on Fathers

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 24, 2016

  • The provider – I Timothy 5:8; Luke 11:11-13
  • The spiritual leader – Ephesians 6:4
    • Acknowledges God’s standard – Ephesians 5:8-10
      • Psalms 78:4-7
    • Wields influence to teach the standard – Joshua 24:14-15
      • Through instruction – Deuteronomy 6:6-7
        • Deuteronomy 32:46
      • By example – Ephesians 5:25; II Timothy 1:5
        • We must treasure the Word in our hearts if we are going to be diligent teachers.
        • II Chronicles 22:3-4 – Ahaziah did evil after his mother counseled him to do evil.
      • The loving discipliner – Hebrews 12:6-10
      • Reinforce the motive – Proverbs 13:24; Deuteronomy 8:5
      • Necessary for growth – Proverbs 22:15; 29:17
      • Not to provoke to wrath – Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21

Parenting God’s Way

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 24, 2016

  • Deuteronomy 6:1-9
  • I Kings 15:26, 34; 16:30; 22:52 – Examples of evil kings who followed in the sin of Jeroboam. Their parents did not influence them for good.
  • II Chronicles 25:1-2, 14-16 – Half-hearted service to God can be just as destructive as failing to serve God at all. Half measures are no measures in God’s eyes.
  • If we are looking for excuses to not teach our children, we’ll find them!
  • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 – We are to be diligent teachers. If God’s Word does not have a place in our heart, how can we be diligent teachers?
    • Proverbs 2:20
    • I John 3:7
    • II Timothy 1:5 – Timothy’s mother and grandmother were great influences on him.
  • Deuteronomy 6:12-14, 20-25
    • Psalms 119:36
    • Hosea 6:4
    • Proverbs 6:20-24
    • Proverbs 22:6

You and Your Children

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 6, 2015

  • Exodus 12:23-27
  • Proclaim the Lord’s death to them.
    • I Corinthians 11:26
    • Galatians 2:20
  • Show them how to benefit from a sermon.
    • Acts 17:10-11
  • Point out good Christians as role models for them.
    • Philippians 3:17
    • Acts 16:1-3
  • Pray with them all the time.
    • II Kings 19:1-3, 14-20
    • II Kings 20:1-3
  • Get them in the habit of reading the Bible.
    • Luke 16:30
  • Put down your device and have human interaction.
    • Acts 2:44
  • Show them how to recover from a sin.
    • II Samuel 12:7
    • Psalms 51:1-4, 17
    • I John 2:1

By David Watson

Benchley, May 20, 2015

  • Acts 13:16-20
  • Judges (Judges – I Samuel 8)
    • Judges 1:27-36
    • Summary of events
    • There were up to 18 judges, depending on who you count as a judge. There are at least 14 we have specifically named as judges.
    • Eli
      • I Samuel 2:22-23; 3:12-13 – Eli cursed for not rebuking his children.
      • Proverbs 23:14
      • It is important to discipline your children to positive effect. It is not enough to just make a scene.
    • The terrible cycle (Judges 2:13-23)
      • Period of rest and peace
      • Sin
      • Oppression
      • Cries to God
      • Judge to deliver
    • Does this teach us anything about God?
      • He is longsuffering!
      • Nehemiah 9:25-28 – the compassion of God
      • He listens!
    • Does this teach us anything about people?
      • We can’t stand prosperity!
      • The importance of good leadership – Judges 17:6; 21:25
      • We have short memories.