By Wayne Moody

Benchley, October 17, 2017

  • Introduction
    • Children are a gift from God.
  • What should a godly home provide for children?
    • Living example
      • Proverbs 20:7 – righteous, walking in integrity
      • Proverbs 31:28 – blessedness and praise
      • Proverbs 14:26 – fear of the Lord, confidence, and refuge
    • Righteous instruction
      • Proverbs 1:8; 6:20 – hear instruction of father and mother
      • Proverbs 19:27; 7:1 – listen, keep, and treasure words
      • Proverbs 5:12-13 – do not ignore instruction
      • Proverbs 10:1; 15:20 – wise son is a blessing
      • Proverbs 23:15-16, 24-25 – wise heart brings blessing and joy
      • Proverbs 27:11; 29:3 – wise son makes a heart glad
      • Proverbs 13:1 – a wise son accepts discipline
    • Loving discipline
      • Proverbs 3:11-12 – don’t reject the discipline of the Lord
      • Proverbs 13:24 – discipline is a part of love
        • Deuteronomy 6:1-9
      • Proverbs 22:15 – discipline removes foolishness
      • Proverbs 19:18 – discipline while there is still hope
      • Proverbs 23:13-14 – discipline will deliver a son’s soul
      • Proverbs 29:15, 17 – rod and reproof give wisdom and delight
      • Proverbs 22:6 – according to the bent, tenor, disposition, etc.
  • Warning against being …
    • Sluggards – Proverbs 10:5
    • Gluttons – Proverbs 28:7
    • Fornicators – Proverbs 29:3
    • Rebels – Proverbs 19:26; 20:20; 30:11-12; 30:17
    • Robbers – Proverbs 28:24
  • A mother’s advice – Proverbs 31:1-9

The Heritage of Jonadab

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By Stacey Durham

Benchley, April 18, 2017

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  • 841 B.C. – II Kings 9-10 – King Jehu of the northern kingdom of Israel
    • Jehonadab son of Rechab
    • II Kings 10:15-28
  • Circa 609-598 B.C. – II Kings 23:34-24:6; II Chronicles 36:4-8 – King Jehoiakim of Judah
    • Jeremiah 35:2, 6-10 – This was over 200 years later and they were still faithful to Jonadab’s instructions.
    • Jeremiah 35:14 – God uses the Rechabites as an example of obedience.
    • Jeremiah 35:19 – God’s promise to Jonadab and his household
  • Our responsibility to our generations
    • The example of Abraham
      • Abram (“exalted father”), Abraham (“father of a multitude”)
      • Genesis 18:19
      • Physical descendants: Israel (and other nations)
      • Spiritual descendants: today’s Christians (Galatians 3:7, 29)
    • Generational fatherhood is carried out through the teaching of God’s words and wisdom.
      • Proverbs 4:1-5; Psalm 78:1-3; Deuteronomy 4:9
      • Joel 1:3
    • Our faithful teachings to our children and grandchildren may preserve our descendants long after we are gone.
  • Discern the signs of the times and respond.
    • Will Jesus not rebuke us for not opening our eyes to the world around us (Matthew 16:3)?
      • Humanism (the philosophy that rejects God and embraces human reason and experience as the only guides for human life) …
      • … materialism, greed, debt, waste, selfishness …
      • … fornication, adultery, homosexuality, pornography, immodesty, lasciviousness, divorce …
    • Jonadab saw the signs of his times, heard the words of the prophets, believed them, and commanded his descendants to live in a way to survive those times.
    • Are we separated and strange in this world (II Corinthians 6:14-18; I Peter 2:11-12; 4:3-5), or will we just “follow the masses in doing evil” (Exodus 23:2)?
  • Obey your father and live, or refuse and die.
    • Jeremiah 35:17
    • Hebrews 12:9
    • Deuteronomy 30:19-20
    • The choice is simple: obey God’s word and live, or reject him and die. Which do you choose?

Godly Families, Part 21

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 22, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Study the Bible II Timothy 2:14-15; Acts 17:11; Mark 12:10 Answer some kid questions with, “I need to study that”; comment on cross references, translations, content, harmony, and figures. Quicker and easier to read commentary.  Are useful, but should never replace Bible study. Don’t want to do class lessons with any depth.  Attitude: “study is for adults”
Use the Bible as a guide through life Psalm 119:9-11; James 1:21-25 Exemplify change based on Bible; guide kids’ application of Word by making plans, motivating, accountability. Change is hard!  Easier to go with flow.  Takes mature faith to trust text over friends/society. Hypocrisy:  sermon on speech … continue bad words.
Defend the Bible Hebrews 2:1-4; I Thessalonians 2:13 Be open and honest about science, creation, Bible, evidence, etc.; http://ApologeticsPress.org We’re not historians / scientists / archaeologists … “Just believe it!”; Afraid to investigate. “There’s no proof.  Everybody  just chooses what to believe.”
Use the Bible to teach others II Timothy 3:16-17; Acts 18:25-26 Exemplify ways to bring up Bible in conversations; practice – “How would you explain ___ to someone?” Laziness – a good spiritual comment only comes after developing knowledge, thought, courage. “Well, I think …” instead of “the Bible teaches …”

 

Godly Families, Part 20

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 15, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others (continued):
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Love enemies Matthew 5:41-45; Luke 23:34; Romans 12:14-21; I Peter 3:8-9 When someone hates, respond with love; “Remember he has a soul.” Not natural – must be deliberate choice. Revenge, hatred
  • Train children to know God’s word
    • Hosea 4:6
    • What was going on in the first century?
      • Acts 18:1-18
    • Luke 17:20-21 – The kingdom of Christ is in the hearts of men.
    • The story of Corinth is representative of the overall movement recorded in Acts:
      • Acts 1:1
      • Acts 4:2
      • Acts 5:21
      • Acts 5:28
      • Acts 5:42
      • Acts 11:26
      • Acts 13:1
      • Acts 15:35
      • Acts 17:19
      • Acts 20:20
      • Acts 28:31
    • 1st century: tons of teaching about Word à Many people believed with zeal and passion!
    • 21st century: the same will happen!
    • Do you suppose it will work for our kids?
    • When you start making an excuse for yourself, remember Timothy!
      • Grew up in Lystra, which was full of heathens. Acts 16:1-2
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Genuinely love the Bible Psalm 119; Mark 4:3-20 Look forward to Bible reading and teaching; talk about its benefits If we’re not actively applying and teaching, it’s hard to read.  Appreciate its treasures! Read the news, novels, sports, homework, etc. all the time … and the Bible a few minutes on Sunday
Read the Bible Psalm 1; I Corinthians 14:19 (point is to read and understand) Read it yourself!  Read together or aloud.  Help through difficulties in habit forming, understanding Be aware; judgment needed with translations and paraphrases Reading it just to check a box.

Godly Families, Part 18

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 1, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love God (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Find peace, contentment, and joy in God Proverbs 2:1-10; II Corinthians 1:1-7; I Timothy 6:17-18 Live for God instead of just “going to church”; train attitude to revolve around spiritual truths. Emotions revolve around peers, fashion, sports, grades, entertainment Knows sports stats or latest hairstyles, hasn’t prayed since Sunday …
Prioritize God over peers, career, wealth … James 4:4; Matthew 16:24-26; I timothy 6:6-11 “Did you make God happy today?” > “What grade did you make on …” YouTube kid!  Busy schedules Cares about school, not about Bible class.

 

  • Train children to love others
    • Love your neighbor as yourself
      • This is the second greatest command (Matthew 22:39)!
      • Suppose Barnabas was your dad (Acts 4:36-37; 11:22-26; 15:2)
        • Would you grow up thinking he loved others?
        • Would you grow up learning how to love others yourself?
      • Take God’s perspective
        • What do the following passages teach about how to view our fellow humans?
          • Genesis 1:26-27
          • Genesis 9:6
          • Jonah 4:11
          • Acts 17:24-29
          • I Peter 3:7
        • Consider the contrast with how Adolf Hitler viewed human life.
      • Brothers and sisters in Christ should hold a special place in our hearts.
        • I Corinthians 8:11-13; II Corinthians 12:19-20; I Peter 4:8-10; I John 4:20 – 5:2

Godly Families, Part 17

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 11, 2016

  • Train children to love God (continued):
    • We must instill the proper motivation (continued):
      • Genesis 39:9
      • What’s wrong with just raising our kids to know that if they misbehave, they’ll be punished?
    • Love God yourself!
      • Parents should set the example. Proverbs 20:7; Matthew 7:5; II Timothy 1:5
      • Let us be as noble in our parenting as Jesus was in his leadership. Hebrews 4:15; I Peter 2:21
      • Deuteronomy 6:5-7 – This is directed to parents!
    • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love God.
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Care deeply about pleasing God (conscience) Genesis 39:9; II Corinthians 1:12; Acts 9:9 Worship 7 days a week; plan careers, recreation, schedules around God Family discussions and priorities rarely center on God; God is a Sunday topic “It’s okay – I won’t get caught.”
Pray without ceasing Romans 12:12; I Thessalonians 5:17; James 5:13-18; Matthew 6:5-7 Pray sincerely; more than at meals (like when something happens); pray topically. Praying only when in trouble.  Meaningless repetition. Praying in vain, not meaning what you say or useless repetition.  Never praying; making prayer a joke.
Repent when wrong Acts 26:20; Matthew 12:41; Jonah 3:8-10 Openly repent when you have wronged others (especially kids). Holding out for someone else to initiate.  No self-evaluation & self-awareness. Not really apologizing or not admitting guilt in the first place.  Insincerity.
Joyfully worship and praise God John 4:23-24; Colossians 3:16; Psalm 100; 122; Philippians 4:4; Acts 16:25 Be happy to go to worship.  Encourage the same in children.  Worship outside the assembly. Worshiping out of necessity.  Daydreaming; too many toys; trained not to participate. Not being joyful.  Not focusing in worship.   Indifferent; complaining.

Godly Families, Part 16

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 4, 2016

  • Train children to pursue Biblical goals (continued):
    • Don’t commit “The Eli Mistake”
    • The more consistent we are, the better
      • Numbers 23:19 – God is perfectly consistent, but that doesn’t mean He never changed His plans.
      • Galatians 1:6-9
    • Clear, specific instructions are helpful.
      • Proverbs 7:1, 6-10, 17-27
    • Discipline should be appropriate, but severe enough to make a difference.
      • Remember the final goal of discipline. Hebrews 12:11
    • Look for opportunities to develop character starting at birth, and enrich these over time.
      • Ecclesiastes 12:1
      • II Timothy 3:15
      • I Samuel 17:42-45
      • II Chronicles 34:3
    • Teaching: God is powerful
      • Hebrews 1:3; Colossians 1:17
  • Train children to love God
    • Examples of faith
      • Noah – Genesis 6:9
      • Job – Job 2:3
      • David – Acts 13:22; Psalms 18:1
      • Abraham – James 2:23
      • These me all believed God was with them all the time, loved Him, and wanted to serve Him.
    • We must instill the proper motivation.
      • What’s wrong with just raising our kids to know that if they misbehave, they will be punished?

 

Godly Families, Part 15

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By David Watson

Benchley, November 27, 2016

  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love (continued):
    • Employ a radical amount of tough love (continued):
      • Say whatever it takes (continued):
        • Are there some pitfalls parents should avoid? (continued)
          • Being hypocritical. Romans 2:1
        • Psalm 119:11 – We should use the Bible when we talk with our kids.
        • II Timothy 3:16 – Parents should use the Bible when talking with their kids both in good times and bad. Children should not lean to dread times when the Bible comes out.
      • Diana Baumrind’s research
          • Baumrind is a psychologist who began studying parenting styles back in the 1960s.
          • She emphasized two measures of parenting:
            • Responsiveness – how responsive parents are to children’s needs
            • Demandingness – how much parents expect children to mature, learn responsibility, and follow rules
            • These correspond to our study of Biblical parenting: tender love and tough love.
          • Baumrind’s Parenting Styles
        Responsiveness (tough love) High Permissive parents Authoritative parents

        (These parents tend to turn out great kids!)

        Low Neglectful parents Authoritarian parents
        Low High
        Demandingness (tough love)
          • God’s Parenting Styles
        Responsiveness (tough love) High “a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother” Proverbs 29:15 “love their children” Titus 2:4; “bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4
        Low “he who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently” Proverbs 13:24 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart” Colossians 3:21
        Low High
        Demandingness (tough love)
      • Proverbs 1:8-9; 6:20-21 – Father and mother should be a balanced parenting team.
  • Train children to pursue Biblical goals
    • Envision long-term goals and work toward them.
      • Proverbs 22:6 reminds parents to look forward to when the child is old.
      • Hebrews 12:11 – notice the difference between discipline in the moment and afterward.
    • Five things we want of our children
      • To love God
      • To love others
      • To know God’s word
      • To respect and obey authority
      • To develop moral excellence
    • Don’t commit “The Eli Mistake”
      • Eli was basically a good, religious man.
        • He served as Israel’s High Priest and judge. I Samuel 1:9; 4:18
        • He respected God’s word. I Samuel 3:18
        • He was bold. I Samuel 1:12-14
        • His kids were involved in religious activities. I Samuel 1:3; 4:4
        • He was compassionate. I Samuel 2:11, 20
      • But now, let’s notice the bad news about Eli and his sons.
        • Hophni and Phineas were sinners! I Samuel 2:12-17
        • Eli certainly didn’t approve of their behavior, and scolded them. I Samuel 2:22-25
        • Still, God said Eli honored his sons above God. I Samuel 2:29
        • God pronounced judgment on Eli’s house because, as a father, he knew his sons were doing wrong but “he did not rebuke them.” I Samuel 3:13
      • Parenting should focus on the end result.
        • Eli was a good man in several ways. He was upset with his sons’ behavior and scolded them.  None of that changed the fact that he just didn’t go far enough as a father!
        • We must do more than worry, wring our hands, be upset, or scold our kids. We must bring every ounce of tender love and tough love to bear until we bring about positive change.

Godly Families, Part 13

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By David Watson

Benchley, November 6, 2016

  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love (continued)
    • Employ a radical amount of tender love (continued)
      • What was the greatest way God showed His love for us?
        • I John 4:9-10; Titus 3:4-5; Romans 5:8
      • Employ a radical amount of tough love
        • Ephesians 6:4
          • “bring”: same word used in Ephesians 5:29
          • “discipline”: includes punishment that is likely to bring temporary sorrow (Hebrews 12:11)
          • “instruction”: rebuking; warning (see I Corinthians 10:11; Titus 3:10)
        • Do whatever it takes
          • Tough love involves appropriate punishment and consequences in harmony with God’s will.
          • The Bible does not endorse child abuse! Such abuse is sin!  Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; Hebrews 12:11
          • What principles should we learn from these passages?
            • Proverbs 13:24
            • Proverbs 19:18
            • Proverbs 22:15
            • Proverbs 23:13-14
            • Proverbs 24:15-17

Godly Families, Part 7

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 4, 2016

  • Men: lead and sacrifice with love (continued)
    • A father must lead his children (continued)
      • Fathers are specifically warned about exasperating their children. Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 4:26; James 3:9
      • Beware of hypocrisy. Matthew 23:3
        • If you don’t want your child to do something, don’t do it yourself.
        • Lead by example. The best way to raise children who are atheists and agnostics is to be a hypocrite.
      • Don’t be preoccupied with money or a career. Luke 12:15-23; 16:13; I Timothy 6:10-11
      • Don’t expect surrogates to fulfill your responsibilities.
        • Fathers must do more than just earn a paycheck. I Timothy 3:4-5
          • Consider the work an elder would be doing. Titus 1:9; Hebrews 13:17; I Peter 5:2-3
        • Women: love your husbands, love your children
          • A wife is responsible for subjecting herself to her husband.
            • Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-33; Titus 2:4-5
          • Submitting to a leader does not mean one is inferior in value.
            • Woman was created to be man’s “helper.” Genesis 2:18-20
              • Who is called a helper in Psalms 115:9-11 and John 14:26?
            • Likewise, man being called her “head” does not mean she is less valuable, either.
              • I Corinthians 11:3; Philippians 2:5-8
            • A wife is of equal value but must fill her role as a helper, letting her husband fill his role as the head.