Godly Families, Part 19

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 8, 2017

  • Introduction
    • What about marrying yourself or inanimate objects?
    • Leviticus 18:22-25 – Warning against perverting God’s marriage plan.
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Be generous Luke 10:30-37; Ephesians 4:28 Budged for others; Speak of others’ needs Consumer culture; prosperity; constant ads When gets money, never thinks of others
Forgive like God Nehemiah 9:16-17; Luke 23:33-34; Matthew 18:21-35 Stop holding grudges; truly forgive children; Explain: “I’ve needed forgiveness myself many times.” It’s hard to forgive!  Peers may encourage revenge. Bitterness
Serve like Christ Matthew 20:25-28; Luke 17:7-10; John 13:12-15 View self as servant; point out opportunities to serve; praise service like we would performance. Not valued by many, must be taught at home; me-first culture Lack of initiative for others; habit of expecting others to do for self.
Encourage others I Thessalonians 2:8-12; Acts 11:23-24; II Corinthians 2:6-8 Encourage the child; Make aware: “He looks like he needs some encouragement.”; “Thank you for saying that to him.” Easy to kick someone when they’re down; too busy to even notice others’ problems. “He wouldn’t do the same for me.”
Speak the truth in love Ephesians 4:15, 29; Proverbs 15:1-4 Read Bible prophets and preachers; explain effort it takes (“I’m trying to word this email to …”). Tempers flare; we don’t know what to say due to little practice, Bible knowledge Insults, gossip, meanness

 

Self-esteem

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, December 18, 2016

  • Self-esteem mandates that a Christian purge his mind so he will be fit for the Master’s use.
    • II Timothy 2:19-21 – Christians are the Lord’s instruments, so they must be pure to be fit for His purpose.
    • Christians must be pure in order to be fit to live with.
    • II Corinthians 10:4-5
    • Proverbs 23:7
    • Thinking on godly things lays the foundation that allows us to have self-esteem.
  • Self-esteem mandates that a Christian purge his emotions so he will be fit for the Master’s service.
    • Hebrews 13:1
    • Proverbs 23:23
    • Ephesians 4:15
    • Psalms 119:104, 128
    • Proverbs 6:19-20
    • James 1:27
    • Philippians 4:4 – Joy is an emotion we should have in the Lord.
      • I Peter 1:8
    • Self-esteem mandates that a Christian purge his speech so that he will be fit for the Master’s use.
      • Ephesians 4:29
      • James 3:8, 26
      • I Thessalonians 1:8
    • Self-esteem mandates that a Christian purge his functions so he will be fit for the Master’s use.
      • Romans 6:12-13, 4
      • I Corinthians 6:19
      • II Corinthians 8:5, 12

#Christianity

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By David Watson

Benchley, October 23, 2016

  • Matthew 12:33-37
  • Boasting
    • Romans 1:28-32
    • #SoThatTheyMayBeSeen, #NotBragginJustSayin, #LivingTheLife
    • #Blessed
    • What to do instead
      • #Christianity
      • Matthew 5:14-16; 6:1-6
      • Proverbs 31:28-31
      • Acts 14:27; 15:12; 21:18-20
      • I Corinthians 1:31
      • Before you post online, double-check your motives!
    • Materialism
      • I Kings 21:1-4
      • #Pin-adequate, #InstagramEnvy, #KeepingUpWithTheFacebookJoneses
      • What to do instead
        • #Christianity
        • I John 2:15-17
        • Hebrews 13:5-6
        • Matthew 6:21
        • Don’t compare your reality to their highlight reel!
      • Anonymous aggression
        • #MeanTweets, #ThisCommentHasBeenRemoved, #PieceOfMyMind
        • What to do instead
          • #Christianity
          • Acts 10:34-35
          • II Corinthians 13:7
          • I Peter 2:20
          • Matthew 7:12
          • Colossians 3:8-12
        • Matthew 12:34

Godly Families, Part 12

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By David Watson

Benchley, October 23, 2016

  • Improve your communication, continued:
    • Be kind and courteous, continued:
      • God commands us to be king (Galatians 5:22; Ephesians 4:32). Shouldn’t we exercise this within our marriage?
      • Dr. John Gottman is able to predict the likelihood of divorce in a marriage based on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.
      • “I’m sorry” – Luke 15:21
      • “I forgive you” – Matthew 6:14-15
      • “Please” – Acts 26:3; Nehemiah 5:10-11
      • “Thank you” – Luke 17:16
      • “Good job” – Proverbs 31:28-29
      • “I love you” – Song of Solomon 1:7
    • Communication techniques
      • Write it out
      • Allow time for a break
      • Use the “speaker/listener” technique
    • Are there any words or methods that are absolutely off-limits?
      • “I told you so.”
      • Cuss words – Ephesians 4:29
      • Threats of divorce
      • One-upping
      • Name-calling
      • Stonewalling / silent treatment
  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love
    • God is the perfect example of tender love and tough love. We ought to try to imitate him.
    • Employ a radical amount of tender love
      • God expresses His love through action – John 3:16
      • We should also express love through action – I John 3:16-18
      • We need to recognize that it’s one thing to say we love our children, it’s another thing to show
      • Parents ought to provide the basic necessities of life.
        • II Corinthians 12:14
        • Proverbs 31:15, 21, 23
        • Titus 2:4-5; I Timothy 5:14

Godly Families, Part 11

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By David Watson

Benchley, October 9, 2016

  • Improve your communication, continued:
    • Don’t turn around and blab (use discretion).
      • Proverbs 11:13; 25:9-10; I Timothy 5:13
      • Matthew 18:15-17; I Corinthians 1:11 – Is there ever a time when it would be appropriate for a spouse to seek advice or share private information?
    • We must learn how to speak!
      • Proverbs 21:23; 25:11; John 7:45-46
      • Our speech can make a big impression on people!
    • Speak with sincere love.
      • Proverbs 28:12
      • Proverbs 15:1-2
      • Matthew 7:1-5
      • Ephesians 4:15
      • Ephesians 4:19
      • Philippians 2:3-5 – Try to succeed and bring everyone else with you!
    • Speak with clarity.
      • I Corinthians 9:20-22; 14:19
    • Slow down.
      • The apostle Peter serves as an example for the need to slow down, listen, and think. John 13:8-10
      • Proverbs 15:28
      • Proverbs 17:27 – Sometimes you just need to be a good listener before trying to talk.
      • James 1:19
    • Be kind and courteous.
      • God commands us to be kind (Galatians 5:22; Ephesians 4:32). Shouldn’t we exercise this within our marriage?

By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, June 12, 2016

  • Introduction
    • Romans 12:1-2
    • I Peter 2:20-21
    • Philippians 3:13-14 – Heaven is the goal!
    • John 17:13-16
    • I Peter 4:3-4
  • Christians imitate Christ
    • In prayer
      • Mark 1:35
      • Matthew 15:36
      • Matthew 14:23
      • Luke 6:12-13
      • Mark 14:32-36
      • Luke 23:34
    • When tempted
      • I Corinthians 10:13
    • In treatment of others
      • Matthew 7:12
      • Philippians 2:3-4
      • Matthew 5:44-45
      • Romans 12:20-21
      • I Thessalonians 5:14
      • II Timothy 2:4
      • Colossians 3:23
      • Matthew 5:16
    • In speech
      • James 3:2-12
      • James 1:26
      • Colossians 4:6
      • Matthew 12:37
    • In thought
      • II Corinthians 10:4-5

The Other 363 Days

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 20, 2015

  • Luke 9:23
  • Ephesians 5:25-32
  • Ephesians 2:10; 4:1; 5:1-2, 15 – Our relationship to Christ is a walk.
  • Ephesians 6:24
  • Jesus is always there for us.
    • Colossians 1:16-17 – Christ is our creator. His power holds all things together.
    • Philippians 2:5-8
    • Romans 5:6; 6:3-4
    • Hebrews 7:23-25
  • Are we always there for Him?
    • He wants everything (Matthew 5:46-48)
    • He wants priority in our relationships (Matthew 10:34-37)
    • He wants our speech (Matthew 12:33-37)
    • He wants our actions (Matthew 12:46-50)
    • He wants our hearts (Matthew 15:16-20)
    • He wants our very lives (Matthew 16:24-27)
  • What about Christians and Easter?
    • The birth and resurrection of Jesus are absolutely important!
      • Genesis 12:3; Luke 1:30-33, 54-55; 2:11; Galatians 3:16
      • I Corinthians 15:12-19; 6:14; 11:24-26; Acts 20:7
    • I’m trying to get us all to remember Jesus for the other 363 days of the year!
      • Matthew 15:3
      • Luke 9:23

Being a Christian Online

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By Mark Gentry

Benchley, October 20, 2015

  • Be pure online
    • I Peter 1:13-17
    • Matthew 5:28-30 – We need to go to whatever length is necessary to be a Christian.
    • Would you be ashamed to show your brethren your online search history?
    • Matthew 5:13-14 – We need to be the salt of the earth online.
    • Colossians 3:8
    • Ephesians 4:29 – Keep your communication pure online.
    • Be 100% opposed to sin.
      • I Timothy 1:18-19
      • We must stand opposed to sin wherever we see it.
      • II Corinthians 10:3-6
      • Galatians 5:19-21 – This applies to our conduct online.
    • Do not be a busybody in other people’s matters.
      • I Peter 4:15-16
      • I Thessalonians 4:11 – Live quietly and mind your own affairs.
      • II Thessalonians 3:11-12
      • I Timothy 5:13
    • Don’t be idle online
      • Colossians 4:5
      • We must be conscious of how we use our time and make sure we take care of our responsibilities.
      • Don’t ignore important people in your life to spend time online.
    • Use the Internet as a tool for good.
      • Hebrews 10:24
      • Colossians 4:6
      • I Timothy 4:12 – Be an example of a Christian.
      • Ecclesiastes 12:14
      • Romans 2:15-16 – We will be judged according to the gospel.
      • James 5:16

By David Watson

Benchley, August 30, 2015

  • Matthew 12:33-37
  • Plan what you will say.
    • Proverbs 15:28
    • Proverbs 25:15
    • I Thessalonians 5:14
    • Proverbs 29:20
    • Proverbs 10:19
    • James 1:19 – Be swift to hear and slow to speak.
  • Get rid of your bad attitudes.
    • I Peter 3:8-9
    • Proverbs 15:1
    • Ephesians 4:15 – Speak the truth in love.
    • We must fix our heart in order to fix our language.
  • Keep your goal in mind: positive change.
    • Colossians 4:5
    • Ephesians 4:29
    • II Corinthians 2:4
    • II Corinthians 7:8
    • Proverbs 9:8
    • Proverbs 25:12
    • Ecclesiastes 12:11
    • Isaiah 50:4
  • Psalm 19:14

By Ed Whitt

Benchley, July 26, 2015

  • Speak, continued:
    • Be wary of how others speak
      • Romans 16:17-18
    • Be heard when speaking God’s Word
      • I Corinthians 14:1-12, 15-16
    • There is a time NOT to NOT speak – Acts 4:1-33
    • Take time to understand your audience and tailor your message appropriately.