By Wayne Moody

Benchley, October 17, 2017

  • Introduction
    • Children are a gift from God.
  • What should a godly home provide for children?
    • Living example
      • Proverbs 20:7 – righteous, walking in integrity
      • Proverbs 31:28 – blessedness and praise
      • Proverbs 14:26 – fear of the Lord, confidence, and refuge
    • Righteous instruction
      • Proverbs 1:8; 6:20 – hear instruction of father and mother
      • Proverbs 19:27; 7:1 – listen, keep, and treasure words
      • Proverbs 5:12-13 – do not ignore instruction
      • Proverbs 10:1; 15:20 – wise son is a blessing
      • Proverbs 23:15-16, 24-25 – wise heart brings blessing and joy
      • Proverbs 27:11; 29:3 – wise son makes a heart glad
      • Proverbs 13:1 – a wise son accepts discipline
    • Loving discipline
      • Proverbs 3:11-12 – don’t reject the discipline of the Lord
      • Proverbs 13:24 – discipline is a part of love
        • Deuteronomy 6:1-9
      • Proverbs 22:15 – discipline removes foolishness
      • Proverbs 19:18 – discipline while there is still hope
      • Proverbs 23:13-14 – discipline will deliver a son’s soul
      • Proverbs 29:15, 17 – rod and reproof give wisdom and delight
      • Proverbs 22:6 – according to the bent, tenor, disposition, etc.
  • Warning against being …
    • Sluggards – Proverbs 10:5
    • Gluttons – Proverbs 28:7
    • Fornicators – Proverbs 29:3
    • Rebels – Proverbs 19:26; 20:20; 30:11-12; 30:17
    • Robbers – Proverbs 28:24
  • A mother’s advice – Proverbs 31:1-9

By David Watson

Benchley, June 18, 2017

  • Ephesians 6:4
  • I Timothy 3:4
  • Tough love
    • Colossians 3:21
    • Ephesians 6:4
    • Hebrews 12:7-11
    • Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 23:13-14; 29:15-17
  • Tender love
    • I John 3:16-18
    • Romans 5:8
    • John 3:16
    • Matthew 18:21-35
    • Luke 23:43
    • I Thessalonians 2:5-12
  • Presence
    • Isaac – Genesis 26:3
    • Moses – Exodus 3:11-12
    • Joshua – Joshua 1:5
    • David – Psalms 38:21-22
    • John 14:16
    • Matthew 28:20
    • Luke 13:25-29
    • Philippians 3:17
  • Fathers matter!

Godly Families, Part 26

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 26, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: train children to develop moral excellence (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Live with humility Numbers 12:3; Matthew 18:1-4; I Peter 5:5-6 Humility is not weakness (Jesus, Moses).  Train to think “what can I learn?” not “I’m perfect” False idea:  good parenting = constant praise Pride, bragging.  Feelings often hurt because view of self is too high.

Godly Families, Part 25

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 19, 2017

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Godly Families, Part 24

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 12, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training child to respect and obey authority (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Submit (in non-sinful matters) Romans 13:1-2; Ephesians 5:21-22, 25, 33 Show humility and good attitude toward authorities; enforce authority over kids. East to let things slide because they don’t bother me – but kids need the lesson. Disrespect, disobedience, bad attitudes (backtalk, eye rolling, etc.)
Lead well Deuteronomy 17:18-20; Matthew 20:25-28 Teach leadership by example, serving those led; giving small opportunities to lead. Use authority for selfishness; good, exemplary leaders hard to find. Exploiting opportunities for self.
Respect and obey God Isaiah 66:1-2; Acts 26:19 Fear God instead of just “going to church”; make a habit:  read Bible –> improve life Easy to just follow religious peers / traditions instead of God Himself. Rationalizing bad behaviors.
  • Train children to develop moral excellence
    • II Peter 1:5-11
      • Is it the job of public schools to teach these virtues?
      • How do we know when we have enough of these qualities?
      • Qualities:
        • Faith
        • Moral excellence (virtue)
        • Knowledge
        • Self-control (temperance) – Marshmallow Test
        • Perseverance (patience, steadfastness) – patience with our circumstances
        • Godliness
        • Brotherly kindness
        • Love – agape; affectionate goodwill
    • Teaching morals is unique
      • Teaching morals begins with the Word of God. II Timothy 3:16

 

Ageism

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 5, 2017

  • II Samuel 19:31-39 – Barzillai the Gileadite
  • God says there is value in age, so we need to get over ageism.
    • Proverbs 16:31; 20:29
    • I Timothy 5:1-3, 9-10; 3:6
    • Leviticus 19:32
  • Let’s put this into practice!
    • Advice from a few wise voices at Benchley …
    • Philippians 3:17; Titus 2:2-5
    • Marriage
      • Genesis 2:24
    • Parenting
      • Proverbs 29:15
      • Colossians 3:21
    • General advice
      • James 2:1-4, 8-9
      • Colossians 4:6

Godly Families, Part 22

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 29, 2017

  • Train children to respect and obey authority
    • Preparing for God
      • II Corinthians 5:10
      • Our job as parents is to teach God’s standards – not our standards.
      • Matthew 25:41, 46
      • Romans 1:30 – disobedience to parents is listed as a sin! See also II Timothy 3:2; Titus 2:11-12; 3:1-3
      • Where is a child supposed to learn about authority? At home!
      • I Timothy 3:4 – One piece of evidence that a man is a good father is that he keeps his children under control with all dignity.
    • Spanking – proven bad by science?
      • Robert Larzelere, Oklahoma State University
        • Optimal type of discipline: conditional spanking
      • Consider the following views:
        • “Our family believes in love, negotiation, and cooperation – not tyranny. We talk to our kids instead of punishing them.”
          • Hebrews 12:7-11
          • This is a false dichotomy!
        • “Kids should shut up and stay out of the way, or else!”
          • Ephesians 6:4; II Timothy 3:14

Godly Families, Part 21

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 22, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Study the Bible II Timothy 2:14-15; Acts 17:11; Mark 12:10 Answer some kid questions with, “I need to study that”; comment on cross references, translations, content, harmony, and figures. Quicker and easier to read commentary.  Are useful, but should never replace Bible study. Don’t want to do class lessons with any depth.  Attitude: “study is for adults”
Use the Bible as a guide through life Psalm 119:9-11; James 1:21-25 Exemplify change based on Bible; guide kids’ application of Word by making plans, motivating, accountability. Change is hard!  Easier to go with flow.  Takes mature faith to trust text over friends/society. Hypocrisy:  sermon on speech … continue bad words.
Defend the Bible Hebrews 2:1-4; I Thessalonians 2:13 Be open and honest about science, creation, Bible, evidence, etc.; http://ApologeticsPress.org We’re not historians / scientists / archaeologists … “Just believe it!”; Afraid to investigate. “There’s no proof.  Everybody  just chooses what to believe.”
Use the Bible to teach others II Timothy 3:16-17; Acts 18:25-26 Exemplify ways to bring up Bible in conversations; practice – “How would you explain ___ to someone?” Laziness – a good spiritual comment only comes after developing knowledge, thought, courage. “Well, I think …” instead of “the Bible teaches …”

 

Godly Families, Part 20

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 15, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others (continued):
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Love enemies Matthew 5:41-45; Luke 23:34; Romans 12:14-21; I Peter 3:8-9 When someone hates, respond with love; “Remember he has a soul.” Not natural – must be deliberate choice. Revenge, hatred
  • Train children to know God’s word
    • Hosea 4:6
    • What was going on in the first century?
      • Acts 18:1-18
    • Luke 17:20-21 – The kingdom of Christ is in the hearts of men.
    • The story of Corinth is representative of the overall movement recorded in Acts:
      • Acts 1:1
      • Acts 4:2
      • Acts 5:21
      • Acts 5:28
      • Acts 5:42
      • Acts 11:26
      • Acts 13:1
      • Acts 15:35
      • Acts 17:19
      • Acts 20:20
      • Acts 28:31
    • 1st century: tons of teaching about Word à Many people believed with zeal and passion!
    • 21st century: the same will happen!
    • Do you suppose it will work for our kids?
    • When you start making an excuse for yourself, remember Timothy!
      • Grew up in Lystra, which was full of heathens. Acts 16:1-2
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Genuinely love the Bible Psalm 119; Mark 4:3-20 Look forward to Bible reading and teaching; talk about its benefits If we’re not actively applying and teaching, it’s hard to read.  Appreciate its treasures! Read the news, novels, sports, homework, etc. all the time … and the Bible a few minutes on Sunday
Read the Bible Psalm 1; I Corinthians 14:19 (point is to read and understand) Read it yourself!  Read together or aloud.  Help through difficulties in habit forming, understanding Be aware; judgment needed with translations and paraphrases Reading it just to check a box.

Godly Families, Part 18

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 1, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love God (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Find peace, contentment, and joy in God Proverbs 2:1-10; II Corinthians 1:1-7; I Timothy 6:17-18 Live for God instead of just “going to church”; train attitude to revolve around spiritual truths. Emotions revolve around peers, fashion, sports, grades, entertainment Knows sports stats or latest hairstyles, hasn’t prayed since Sunday …
Prioritize God over peers, career, wealth … James 4:4; Matthew 16:24-26; I timothy 6:6-11 “Did you make God happy today?” > “What grade did you make on …” YouTube kid!  Busy schedules Cares about school, not about Bible class.

 

  • Train children to love others
    • Love your neighbor as yourself
      • This is the second greatest command (Matthew 22:39)!
      • Suppose Barnabas was your dad (Acts 4:36-37; 11:22-26; 15:2)
        • Would you grow up thinking he loved others?
        • Would you grow up learning how to love others yourself?
      • Take God’s perspective
        • What do the following passages teach about how to view our fellow humans?
          • Genesis 1:26-27
          • Genesis 9:6
          • Jonah 4:11
          • Acts 17:24-29
          • I Peter 3:7
        • Consider the contrast with how Adolf Hitler viewed human life.
      • Brothers and sisters in Christ should hold a special place in our hearts.
        • I Corinthians 8:11-13; II Corinthians 12:19-20; I Peter 4:8-10; I John 4:20 – 5:2