By Wayne Moody

Benchley, October 17, 2017

  • Introduction
    • Children are a gift from God.
  • What should a godly home provide for children?
    • Living example
      • Proverbs 20:7 – righteous, walking in integrity
      • Proverbs 31:28 – blessedness and praise
      • Proverbs 14:26 – fear of the Lord, confidence, and refuge
    • Righteous instruction
      • Proverbs 1:8; 6:20 – hear instruction of father and mother
      • Proverbs 19:27; 7:1 – listen, keep, and treasure words
      • Proverbs 5:12-13 – do not ignore instruction
      • Proverbs 10:1; 15:20 – wise son is a blessing
      • Proverbs 23:15-16, 24-25 – wise heart brings blessing and joy
      • Proverbs 27:11; 29:3 – wise son makes a heart glad
      • Proverbs 13:1 – a wise son accepts discipline
    • Loving discipline
      • Proverbs 3:11-12 – don’t reject the discipline of the Lord
      • Proverbs 13:24 – discipline is a part of love
        • Deuteronomy 6:1-9
      • Proverbs 22:15 – discipline removes foolishness
      • Proverbs 19:18 – discipline while there is still hope
      • Proverbs 23:13-14 – discipline will deliver a son’s soul
      • Proverbs 29:15, 17 – rod and reproof give wisdom and delight
      • Proverbs 22:6 – according to the bent, tenor, disposition, etc.
  • Warning against being …
    • Sluggards – Proverbs 10:5
    • Gluttons – Proverbs 28:7
    • Fornicators – Proverbs 29:3
    • Rebels – Proverbs 19:26; 20:20; 30:11-12; 30:17
    • Robbers – Proverbs 28:24
  • A mother’s advice – Proverbs 31:1-9

The Divided Kingdom

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 10, 2017

  • I Kings 12 – II Kings 25; II Chronicles 10-36
  • The kingdom divides
    • Southern kingdom: Judah, Benjamin, Levites, and others
      • II Chronicles 11:1-4, 13, 16; 15:9
    • Northern kingdom: Israel (other 10 tribes)
    • Jeroboam was afraid of losing people to Judah when they went to Jerusalem to worship, so he set up places to worship in Israel with non-Levite priests.
    • Israel: 20 kings, all bad
    • Judah: 20 kings, three that were pretty good (Jehoshaphat, Hezekiah, Josiah), and a few other that were good for part of their reign. All were descendants of David.
    • God sent dozens of prophets to both kingdoms. They were mostly ignored.
    • Israel was conquered in 722 B.C. by Assyrians.
    • Judah was conquered in 586 B.C. by Babylonians.
  • You must choose righteousness, regardless of your parents.
    • II Kings 125:25-33 – Jeroboam sets up his own places and idols to worship.
    • It is possible to break a cycle!
      • II Kings 16:3 – Ahaz – sacrificed a son to an idol!
      • II Kings 18:1-6 – Hezekiah – broke down idols and served God
      • II Kings 21:1-3 – Manasseh – did evil until the end of his life – rebuilt the idols! He was a bad influence on his son Amon, who ruled after him.
      • II Kings 21:19-21 – Amon – served the idols of Manasseh
      • II Kings 22:1-2 – Josiah – served God with all his heart
      • II Kings 23:32 – Jehoahaz – did evil before God, despite the good influence of his father Josiah
      • II Kings 23:37 – Jehoiakim – did evil before God
    • Ezekiel 18:14-17 – God judges us based on our actions – not our parents.
  • Listen to God’s word.
    • II Kings 17:7, 12-16, 22-23, 19 – Why Israel fell.
    • God tried many different strategies to reach His people.
    • When we ignore God’s word, we are making the same mistake.
      • Galatians 5:19-21 – sins to avoid
      • Galatians 5:22-24 – The good side!

Godly Marriage

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By Jason Garcia

April 27, 2016

  • God’s design
    • One man, one woman – Matthew 19:4-6
    • To be “held in honor” – Hebrews 13:4
    • Life-long – Romans 7:2
    • God is a witness – Matthew 2:13-16
      • Proverbs 1:8; 6:20; 23:22
    • Developing a godly marriage
      • Godly marriages are Christ-centered – Ephesians 5:22-29
        • God first, then your spouse (even after children enter the picture!)
      • Parents cannot teach and model what they do not believe – Deuteronomy 6:5-6
      • Our children must see how marriage works – I Peter 3:1-2, 7
      • A godly spouse will help and not hinder
        • Worship – I Corinthians 7:4-5; I Peter 3:7
        • Your calling, evangelism – Ephesians 4:1-3; Acts 18:26
        • Teaching efforts, accountability – Ezra 10:3; Acts 5:2, 9
        • A godly marriage has a common standard – Amos 3:3; II Timothy 3:15-17
        • Odds are against ungodly marriage – I Kings 11:4; Nehemiah 13:26
        • Be careful not to undermine each other’s authority – Colossians 3:20; Ephesians 6:1
        • Children won’t fix a struggling marriage – Genesis 29:31-35
      • Psalm 127 – Like arrows, children must be aimed and released. Children are a solemn spiritual responsibility.
      • Ezekiel 18:20 – We will all stand in judgment for our own deeds, but children generally go in the direction their parents lead them.
      • Proverbs 22:6

Avoiding Dysfunction

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 26, 2016

  • I Samuel 2:12-25; II Samuel 13-18
  • Family dysfunction
    • The family of Eli
      • Eli: Judge, high priest, father – I Samuel 1:3, 9; 4:18
      • Hophni and Phinehas: Priests, no moral character – I Samuel 2:12
      • Hophni and Phinehas abused priesthood/people – I Samuel 2:13-16
      • Irreverent, immoral, rebellios – I Samuel 2:17, 22, 25
    • David, Absalom, Amnon, Tamar
      • Absalom rapes Tamar – II Samuel 13:1, 13-14
      • Absalom’s hatred grows – II Samuel 13:20-22
      • Absalom revels, executed – II Samuel 13-18
    • Lessons for parents
      • Family priorities
        • Vigilance in instruction, discipline – I Kings 1:6
        • Too busy for the kingdom? Matthew 6:31-33
      • Maintain discipline
        • Eli failed – I Samuel 2:24-25; 3:13
        • Beyond redemption point – Proverbs 19:18
          • Hebrews 6:6
        • Fight passivity – II Samuel 13:21
          • Luke 10:42
          • Work through difficulty – II Samuel 14:28
        • Love without partiality
          • Misplaced devotion – I Samuel 2:29
          • Feeding sibling rivalry – Genesis 25:27-28
        • Heed the warnings – I Samuel 2:22; II Samuel 12:21

Discipline of the Lord

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 25, 2016

  • Hebrews 12:7-11
  • Discipline is necessary and unpleasant – Proverbs 19:18; Hebrews 12:11
  • Discipline has a purpose and goal
    • Purges evil and purifies the heart – Proverbs 20:30
    • Drives out folly and foolishness – Proverbs 22:15
    • Corrects condemning behavior – Proverbs 23:13-14
      • Exodus 21:20 – Compare the word “rod” here. The rod of discipline is painful!
    • Imparts wisdom and prevents shame – Proverbs 29:15-17; 17:25
      • Discipline early while there is hope! Proverbs 19:18
    • The goal is holiness and righteousness – Hebrews 12:7-11
  • Discipline MUST be motivated by love – Proverbs 3:11-12
  • Discipline and love linked – Proverbs 13:24
  • Unloving punishment is destruction – Ephesians 6:4
  • The Bible and discipline
Child abuse Godly discipline
Unfair, unexpected Fair, expected
Degrading, demoralizing Balanced, reasonable
Leaves permanent damage, scars Painful, no permanent damage
Motivated by hatred, emotional damage Motivated by love, emotional security
  • Administering discipline
    • Start early – Proverbs 19:18
    • Stay balanced – Proverbs 29:15
      • Use the rod and reproof – Proverbs 3:11-12
      • Verbal (not shouting, Galatians 5:20)
      • Sometimes it is sufficient – Proverbs 17:10
    • Corporal (the rod)
      • Never to vent anger (Ephesians 4:26)
      • Distinguish immaturity vs defiance
      • Be consistent, avoid extremes
      • Administer privately
      • Don’t delay – Ecclesiastes 8:11
      • Decide with your spouse
      • Pray for wisdom – Proverbs 2:6
      • Discipline by the Word of God – Ephesians 6:4
      • Seek godly counsel – Proverbs 15:22
    • The naysayers
      • Apply God’s pattern, expect ridicule – II Timothy 3:12
      • “Spanking is abuse, ya know”
      • “Your kids are just learning to hit others” – Colossians 3:20
    • Discipline’s reward
      • Discipline will be well worth the effort – Proverbs 10:1; 29:17
        • Eli’s regret – II Samuel 2:17, 24; 3:13
        • Lasting righteousness, holiness – Proverbs 22:6

Parenting God’s Way

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By Jason Garcia

Benchley, April 24, 2016

  • Deuteronomy 6:1-9
  • I Kings 15:26, 34; 16:30; 22:52 – Examples of evil kings who followed in the sin of Jeroboam. Their parents did not influence them for good.
  • II Chronicles 25:1-2, 14-16 – Half-hearted service to God can be just as destructive as failing to serve God at all. Half measures are no measures in God’s eyes.
  • If we are looking for excuses to not teach our children, we’ll find them!
  • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 – We are to be diligent teachers. If God’s Word does not have a place in our heart, how can we be diligent teachers?
    • Proverbs 2:20
    • I John 3:7
    • II Timothy 1:5 – Timothy’s mother and grandmother were great influences on him.
  • Deuteronomy 6:12-14, 20-25
    • Psalms 119:36
    • Hosea 6:4
    • Proverbs 6:20-24
    • Proverbs 22:6

By David Watson

Benchley, May 20, 2015

  • Acts 13:16-20
  • Judges (Judges – I Samuel 8)
    • Judges 1:27-36
    • Summary of events
    • There were up to 18 judges, depending on who you count as a judge. There are at least 14 we have specifically named as judges.
    • Eli
      • I Samuel 2:22-23; 3:12-13 – Eli cursed for not rebuking his children.
      • Proverbs 23:14
      • It is important to discipline your children to positive effect. It is not enough to just make a scene.
    • The terrible cycle (Judges 2:13-23)
      • Period of rest and peace
      • Sin
      • Oppression
      • Cries to God
      • Judge to deliver
    • Does this teach us anything about God?
      • He is longsuffering!
      • Nehemiah 9:25-28 – the compassion of God
      • He listens!
    • Does this teach us anything about people?
      • We can’t stand prosperity!
      • The importance of good leadership – Judges 17:6; 21:25
      • We have short memories.

 

Train Up a Child

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By David Watson

Benchley, May 27, 2012

 

  • Proverbs 22:6
  • Parents must prioritize.
    • “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”
    • Matthew 6:33
    • What is the priority we have for our children?
    • Deuteronomy 13:6-11 – In the Old Testament, those who inspired rebellion against God were to be stoned.
    • Who are we trying to please, God or our children? God must be our priority.
  • Parents must not make The Eli Mistake.
    • I Samuel 3:18; 1:12-14; 4:4; 2:11,20 – The good work of Eli.
    • I Samuel 2:12-17,22-25,29; 3:13 – Eli’s sons were worthless men and despised God’s commands. God charged Eli because he did not rebuke his sons. Eli did not go far enough in his rebuke to change their behavior.
  • Parents must live the life we want our kids to live.
    • Deuteronomy 6:4-9 – God commands parents to teach their children.
    • Romans 2:21-24 – We must not be hypocrits. Children will pick up on this!
    • II Timothy 1:5 – the good examples that Timothy had
    • Children learn habits from their parents. If we want our children to improve we need to improve.
    • What if my kids grow up to act exactly like me?

By David Watson

Benchley, May 20, 2012

 

By David Watson

July 10, 2011

 

  • Judges 2:7
  • “There arose another generation” (Judges 2:10)
    • They didn’t teach their kids!
      • They took for granted that their children would just grow up to be good Jews.
      • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 – We must deliberately teach our children.
      • I Samuel 2:12 – Eli’s sons did not know the Lord even though they were priests!
  • “You shall tear down their altars” (Judges 2:2)
  • That they “might be taught war” (Judges 3:2)