Fruitful Marriage

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By Jady Stevens

Benchley, October 2, 2016

  • Love
    • I Corinthians 13:4-7
  • Joy
    • Luke 15:8-11
    • Joy is a choice that we make.
    • James 1:2
    • II Corinthians 8:2
  • Peace
    • Luke 11:21
    • Acts 7:26
    • Luke 14:32
    • I Corinthians 14:33
    • John 14:27
    • John 16:33
    • We can have peace can be in spite of circumstances.
    • II Thessalonians 3:16
    • Romans 14:19
    • Hebrews 12:14
    • I Peter 3:11
    • James 2:16
    • Ephesians 2:14-15
    • Proverbs 21:19; 19:13
    • Proverbs 17:14 – Take steps before a quarrel breaks out.
    • Proverbs 4:7 – A peaceful marriage helps strengthen us.
  • Patience
    • Romans 9:22
    • Romans 2:4
    • Ephesians 5:27
  • Kindness
    • Ephesians 2:7
    • Colossians 3:12
    • Romans 2:4
    • I Peter 3:1
    • Romans 11:22
  • Goodness
    • Ephesians 5:7
    • Proverbs 14:34
  • Faithfulness
    • Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
  • Meekness
    • Matthew 11:29
    • I Peter 3:4
  • Self-control
    • Self-control is to have power over self.

Godly Families, Part 7

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 4, 2016

  • Men: lead and sacrifice with love (continued)
    • A father must lead his children (continued)
      • Fathers are specifically warned about exasperating their children. Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 4:26; James 3:9
      • Beware of hypocrisy. Matthew 23:3
        • If you don’t want your child to do something, don’t do it yourself.
        • Lead by example. The best way to raise children who are atheists and agnostics is to be a hypocrite.
      • Don’t be preoccupied with money or a career. Luke 12:15-23; 16:13; I Timothy 6:10-11
      • Don’t expect surrogates to fulfill your responsibilities.
        • Fathers must do more than just earn a paycheck. I Timothy 3:4-5
          • Consider the work an elder would be doing. Titus 1:9; Hebrews 13:17; I Peter 5:2-3
        • Women: love your husbands, love your children
          • A wife is responsible for subjecting herself to her husband.
            • Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-33; Titus 2:4-5
          • Submitting to a leader does not mean one is inferior in value.
            • Woman was created to be man’s “helper.” Genesis 2:18-20
              • Who is called a helper in Psalms 115:9-11 and John 14:26?
            • Likewise, man being called her “head” does not mean she is less valuable, either.
              • I Corinthians 11:3; Philippians 2:5-8
            • A wife is of equal value but must fill her role as a helper, letting her husband fill his role as the head.

1 Corinthians, Part 14

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, August 31, 2016

  • 1 Corinthians 7:39-8:13
  • I Corinthians 7:39 – People have different views on what “only in the Lord” means.
    • Some argue that this phrase means “only a Christian.” This interpretation does not seem to match up with Paul’s previous guidance about being married to an unbelieving husband.
    • See Ephesians 6:1 and Colossians 3:18 for other places where this phrase is used. Here the phrase could simply mean, “according to God’s will.”  In those verses, the obedience is in the Lord.  In this passage, the marriage is in the Lord.
  • 1 Corinthians 8:1 – If “all” here means the majority of the audience that knew meat offered to idols not sinful to eat, I Corinthians 8:7 is indicating that not everyone had that knowledge. Therefore, they should be careful not to offend others who lack that knowledge.  We must be careful to not cause others to violate their conscience by doing something they think is wrong even if it is not a sin.

Godly Families, Part 6

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By David Watson

Benchley, August 28, 2016

  • Men: lead and sacrifice with love
    • With understanding and honor
      • I Peter 3:7 – God holds wives in high regard. See Matthew 27:9; Genesis 1:27; 2:22; Malachi 2:14-16.  If husbands do not properly treat their wives with understanding and honor, it hinders their relationship with God.
    • A father must lead his children.
      • Ephesians 6:4; Hebrews 12:4-11 – Children should be disciplined with their best interests in mind.
      • Job 1:5
      • Sadly, 71% of all high school dropouts, 85% of all youth in prison, and 90% of all homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes. (Daly)
      • Fathers must be careful not to provoke or exasperate their children. Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21

1 Corinthians, Part 13

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, August 24, 2016

  • I Corinthians 7:17-38
  • I Corinthians 7:19 – See Ephesians 2:8. There are two parts to man’s salvation.  Providing the means for salvation is 100% up to God.  Accepting salvation by obeying God is 100% up to man.  See Luke 17:10.
    • See Judges 7:2. God does not want man to think that salvation is his own doing.
  • I Corinthians 7:23 – See Ephesians 1:7; Titus 3:5; Romans 1:16; Matthew 15:9.
  • I Corinthians 7:24 – Some try to apply this verse too broadly and argue that you do not have to put aside sins you were already practicing when you became a Christian. This view contradicts I Corinthians 7:19 and Acts 3:26, as well as many other passages.
  • I Corinthians 7:25-35 – Paul is giving advice in light of the persecution that was coming. He was not speaking against marriage.  He was just saying that if they were not married, it would be better to remain that way with persecution on the way.
  • I Corinthians 7:36-38 – There are different views on the meaning of this passage. Some think it is talking about a man’s own virginity.  Some think it is talking about giving a man’s virgin daughter in marriage.  Others think it is talking about a man marrying his betrothed.  The ESV translation favors this third view.

Godly Families, Part 5

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By David Watson

Benchley, August 21, 2016

  • Center your family around God
    • Deuteronomy 6:4
    • Family Bible reading
    • Family devotions
    • Family reactions – the way we always act and react to life
    • What could get us on the wrong track as a family?
      • TV
      • Social media
      • Sports
      • John 12:42-43
    • Men: lead and sacrifice with love
      • A husband is responsible for serving his wife as a leader.
        • Genesis 3:16; I Corinthians 11:3, 7-9
      • Anyone with God-given authority must use it as God requires.
        • I Samuel 15:17-19, 26 – Saul did not lead as God commanded.
        • Husbands are to fulfill their role as God has described it.
        • Colossians 3:19
      • Bad leadership leads to unhappiness
        • I Samuel 8 – Samuel’s sons were bad leaders and Israel rejected them.
      • How should a husband lead?
        • By sacrificing himself for the spiritual well-being of his wife.
          • Ephesians 5:22-23
        • By developing Christ-like love for his wife.
          • See Matthew 20:26-28; John 13:5-14. The way to be great is to serve.  There is no task that is below us.
          • I Corinthians 2:11

I Corinthians, Part 12

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, August 17, 2016

  • 1 Corinthians 7:1-16
  • I Corinthians 7:1 – ESV, NRSV, and LEB put the second half of this verse in quotes, indicating that this is the question asked of Paul. This seems to match with the rest of I Corinthians 7:2-9, which is Paul’s answer to the question.
  • I Corinthians 7:3-5 – Husbands and wives are not to deprive each other sexually.
  • I Corinthians 7:10-11 – This is God’s basic marriage law, which has been the same since Creation – one man and one woman for life.
  • I Corinthians 7:15 – If an unbelieving spouse is determined to leave, there is nothing the remaining spouse can do but let them go. Nowhere in the Bible do we see that the remaining spouse can remarry with God’s approval.  The only exception is if one spouse was guilty of adultery.  In that case, the innocent spouse can remarry.  (Matthew 19:9; Mark 10:11; Matthew 5:32; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:3)
    • The word “bondage” here is not talking about being bound under the law. It is talking about servitude.  If an unbelieving spouse leaves, the remaining spouse is not required to continue to serve the spouse who left.

Godly Families, Part 3

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By David Watson

Benchley, August 7, 2016

  • The importance of developing a good marriage:
    • Before Eve: “not good” (Genesis 2:18)
    • After Eve: “very good” (Genesis 1:31)
    • (Chronology note: Genesis 2 is filling in details of Genesis 1:27.)
    • Malachi 2:14
    • Marriage is about companionship.
    • I Corinthians 7:9
  • When marriage is what it is supposed to be, it is very good. (Genesis 1:31)
    • Proverbs 18:22; 19:14; 31:10 – Marriage is a good relationship. You could not possible put a price on having a good spouse to rely on, talk with, take comfort from, and share life with.
    • Not every marriage is good. Proverbs 21:9, 19; I Samuel 25:3, 25
  • Your marriage affects a whole list of things beyond you.
    • Your marriage affects your relationship with God.
      • I Peter 3:7
    • Your marriage affects the reputation of God, His Word, and His people.
      • Titus 2:3-5
    • Your marriage affects your relationship with others.
      • Mark 6:18-26 – The influence of Herodias causes Herod to do something he really doesn’t want to do.

Godly Families, Part 2

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By David Watson

Benchley, July 31, 2016

  • Lesson 1, continued:
    • It’s never too early to study the Bible truth relating to the family.
      • II Chronicles 34:1-3 – Josiah was only 16 when he began to seek God.
    • It’s never too late to study the family. Titus 2:3-5
    • Apply God’s work to yourself!
      • Who might we blame when we mess up?
        • Genesis 3:12-13 – Adam blames everyone but himself.
        • Proverbs 19:3 – The foolish blame the Lord.
      • In Ephesians 5:22-33 …
        • Find where the husband is told to make his wife submit.
        • Find where the wife is told to make her husband lead.
        • (This doesn’t mean we should never try to teach / encourage others to fulfill their roles.)
      • Matthew 7:1-5; James 1:22
    • Ephesians 4:22-24; II Peter 1:5-8; 3:18
    • Since the 1960s, the rate of new marriages has fallen by more than 50%. Rates of divorce and single parenthood have more than doubled.  The trend of cohabitation is not making families stronger.
    • The importance of developing a good marriage:
      • Marriage is the bedrock of a family and families are the bedrock of a society.
        • Genesis 2:18-24
        • Genesis 18:20 – God was not pleased with Sodom and Gomorrah.
        • Malachi 2:13-16 – God cares about the family!
        • Jamestown, 1607
        • Oneida Community, 1848-1879
        • Matthew 19:4-9 – God’s strict marriage law. From the beginning, it was to be a permanent relationship.

Husband – Head of Wife

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, May 15, 2016

  • Introduction
    • Genesis 2 – the institution of marriage
    • I Corinthians 11:9
    • Ephesians 5:22, 25
    • Genesis 16 – Sarah tried to take the lead.
  • What characteristics and attitudes should a husband have exercising his role as head?
    • Ephesians 5 – Be more concerned about his wife’s welfare than his own.
  • What types of decisions should a husband make (financial, spiritual, discipline, etc.)?
    • The husband should take the lead in all decisions. It is more a question of how he leads in making those decisions.
    • I Timothy 3:5
    • As long as the wife’s wishes are in accordance with God’s will, the husband should give them due consideration. The same goes for the wife with regard to the husband’s wishes.
  • What about a situation where the wife is a stronger personality than the husband?
    • The husband should try to shore up his personality and take the lead.
    • The wife should submit to him and encourage him to take the lead.
    • If the husband still won’t take the lead, the marriage is in trouble. She will have to take the lead in some things for the good of the family, but that will be his sin and not hers.
  • What about a situation where the husband takes the wrong lead?
    • In this case she must obey God rather than her husband. Acts 4:19; 5:29
  • Considering the things that were specifically mentioned:
    • Financial: Husband must take the lead to keep the family solvent.
    • Spiritual: Husband must take the lead in encouraging the family to serve the Lord.
    • Discipline: Husband must take the lead in disciplining children the proper way.  The husband and wife should both be consistent in this, but if one won’t discipline, the other must for the good of the children.