I Peter 3:1-20

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, May 21, 2017

  • I Peter 3:1-20
  • I Peter 3:1-2 – “In the same way” here points back to I Peter 2:21-25, referring to how Jesus died so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. Wives should likewise die to sin and live to righteousness, not only for their own benefit, but also to be a good influence on their husbands.
  • I Peter 3:6 – Women can be metaphorical children of Sarah if they follow her example in living righteously.
  • I Peter 3:7 – Paul is not saying that women are weaker – just that husbands should treat them with love and care as though they are weaker.
  • I Peter 3:10-12 – Compare I Peter 2:24.
  • I Peter 3:18-20 – Christ taught people who were in a prison of sin, just like Noah did in his time.

By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, April 23, 2017

  • There are five basic relationships for mankind
    • Christ/church – for man’s salvation
    • Family – husband/wife; parent/child
    • Government – civil powers/citizen
    • Economical – employer/employee (Genesis 2:15; Ephesians 4:28)
    • Social – neighbor/neighbor (Luke 10)
  • The Christ-church relationship
    • This is the greatest relationship.
    • Planned from eternity (Ephesians 3:10-11)
    • Purchased with Jesus’ blood (Acts 20:28)
    • The relationship that glorifies God (Ephesians 3:21)
    • Jesus saves (Ephesians 5:23)
  • The husband-wife relationship
    • The second greatest relationship:
    • Is honorable (Hebrews 13:9)
    • He who finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22; 21:9; 27:15)
    • Husband/wife relationship patterned after the Christ/church relationship (Ephesians 5:23-26)
    • A godly wife is an honorable thing (I Peter 3:7)
  • There is no greater shame than the way these two relationships are degraded in our society.

Ageism

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 5, 2017

  • II Samuel 19:31-39 – Barzillai the Gileadite
  • God says there is value in age, so we need to get over ageism.
    • Proverbs 16:31; 20:29
    • I Timothy 5:1-3, 9-10; 3:6
    • Leviticus 19:32
  • Let’s put this into practice!
    • Advice from a few wise voices at Benchley …
    • Philippians 3:17; Titus 2:2-5
    • Marriage
      • Genesis 2:24
    • Parenting
      • Proverbs 29:15
      • Colossians 3:21
    • General advice
      • James 2:1-4, 8-9
      • Colossians 4:6

By David Watson

Benchley, January 22, 2017

  • Exodus 23:2 – Warning against peer pressure.
  • “A strong marriage and family is usually impossible.”
    • Esther 1:10-12, 19-21 – The king’s attitude toward divorce is a common one today.
    • Temporary marriage license?
    • Matthew 19:4-9; Ephesians 5:22-6:4
  • “It doesn’t hurt to look.”
    • Pornography is a huge threat to our marriages!
    • Galatians 5:16-23; I Thessalonians 4:1-8
  • “Everybody needs to do what’s best for them.”
    • II Peter 2:3
    • James 5:19-20
    • Titus 2:11-14; Luke 9:23 – Everybody needs to do what’s best for God!
  • We must live by the Word of God, not the immoral ideas of people!
    • II Timothy 3

Godly Families, Part 19

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 8, 2017

  • Introduction
    • What about marrying yourself or inanimate objects?
    • Leviticus 18:22-25 – Warning against perverting God’s marriage plan.
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Be generous Luke 10:30-37; Ephesians 4:28 Budged for others; Speak of others’ needs Consumer culture; prosperity; constant ads When gets money, never thinks of others
Forgive like God Nehemiah 9:16-17; Luke 23:33-34; Matthew 18:21-35 Stop holding grudges; truly forgive children; Explain: “I’ve needed forgiveness myself many times.” It’s hard to forgive!  Peers may encourage revenge. Bitterness
Serve like Christ Matthew 20:25-28; Luke 17:7-10; John 13:12-15 View self as servant; point out opportunities to serve; praise service like we would performance. Not valued by many, must be taught at home; me-first culture Lack of initiative for others; habit of expecting others to do for self.
Encourage others I Thessalonians 2:8-12; Acts 11:23-24; II Corinthians 2:6-8 Encourage the child; Make aware: “He looks like he needs some encouragement.”; “Thank you for saying that to him.” Easy to kick someone when they’re down; too busy to even notice others’ problems. “He wouldn’t do the same for me.”
Speak the truth in love Ephesians 4:15, 29; Proverbs 15:1-4 Read Bible prophets and preachers; explain effort it takes (“I’m trying to word this email to …”). Tempers flare; we don’t know what to say due to little practice, Bible knowledge Insults, gossip, meanness

 

God Hates Putting Away

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, October 23, 2016

  • Malachi 2:10-17
  • The relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate, the most sharing, the most productive, the most glorious, the most loving, and should be the most revered of all physical relationships.
  • Matthew 19:9
  • When one divorces his wife and marries another without the cause of fornication, he:
    • Profanes the covenant of the fathers (Malachi 2:10)
    • Deals treacherously with his wife (Malachi 2:14)
    • Commits abomination before God (Malachi 2:11)
      • Is an alien sinner amenable to God’s marriage law?
        • Yes, God’s marriage law is for all – not just Christians. I Corinthians 5
      • But I’ve been baptized!
        • Your sins were forgiven, but you cannot continue living in the sin of an adulterous relationship.
      • Profanes the holiness of God (Malachi 2:11)
        • Ephesians 5:22-31 – The marriage relationship is patterned after the relationship of Christ to the church.
      • His children are not a “godly seed” (Malachi 2:15)
        • I Corinthians 7:14
      • Wearies the Lord by calling it good (Malachi 2:17)
      • Is cut off from the Lord (Malachi 2:13)

Godly Families, Part 12

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By David Watson

Benchley, October 23, 2016

  • Improve your communication, continued:
    • Be kind and courteous, continued:
      • God commands us to be king (Galatians 5:22; Ephesians 4:32). Shouldn’t we exercise this within our marriage?
      • Dr. John Gottman is able to predict the likelihood of divorce in a marriage based on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.
      • “I’m sorry” – Luke 15:21
      • “I forgive you” – Matthew 6:14-15
      • “Please” – Acts 26:3; Nehemiah 5:10-11
      • “Thank you” – Luke 17:16
      • “Good job” – Proverbs 31:28-29
      • “I love you” – Song of Solomon 1:7
    • Communication techniques
      • Write it out
      • Allow time for a break
      • Use the “speaker/listener” technique
    • Are there any words or methods that are absolutely off-limits?
      • “I told you so.”
      • Cuss words – Ephesians 4:29
      • Threats of divorce
      • One-upping
      • Name-calling
      • Stonewalling / silent treatment
  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love
    • God is the perfect example of tender love and tough love. We ought to try to imitate him.
    • Employ a radical amount of tender love
      • God expresses His love through action – John 3:16
      • We should also express love through action – I John 3:16-18
      • We need to recognize that it’s one thing to say we love our children, it’s another thing to show
      • Parents ought to provide the basic necessities of life.
        • II Corinthians 12:14
        • Proverbs 31:15, 21, 23
        • Titus 2:4-5; I Timothy 5:14

Godly Families, Part 11

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By David Watson

Benchley, October 9, 2016

  • Improve your communication, continued:
    • Don’t turn around and blab (use discretion).
      • Proverbs 11:13; 25:9-10; I Timothy 5:13
      • Matthew 18:15-17; I Corinthians 1:11 – Is there ever a time when it would be appropriate for a spouse to seek advice or share private information?
    • We must learn how to speak!
      • Proverbs 21:23; 25:11; John 7:45-46
      • Our speech can make a big impression on people!
    • Speak with sincere love.
      • Proverbs 28:12
      • Proverbs 15:1-2
      • Matthew 7:1-5
      • Ephesians 4:15
      • Ephesians 4:19
      • Philippians 2:3-5 – Try to succeed and bring everyone else with you!
    • Speak with clarity.
      • I Corinthians 9:20-22; 14:19
    • Slow down.
      • The apostle Peter serves as an example for the need to slow down, listen, and think. John 13:8-10
      • Proverbs 15:28
      • Proverbs 17:27 – Sometimes you just need to be a good listener before trying to talk.
      • James 1:19
    • Be kind and courteous.
      • God commands us to be kind (Galatians 5:22; Ephesians 4:32). Shouldn’t we exercise this within our marriage?

Fruitful Marriage

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By Jady Stevens

Benchley, October 2, 2016

  • Love
    • I Corinthians 13:4-7
  • Joy
    • Luke 15:8-11
    • Joy is a choice that we make.
    • James 1:2
    • II Corinthians 8:2
  • Peace
    • Luke 11:21
    • Acts 7:26
    • Luke 14:32
    • I Corinthians 14:33
    • John 14:27
    • John 16:33
    • We can have peace can be in spite of circumstances.
    • II Thessalonians 3:16
    • Romans 14:19
    • Hebrews 12:14
    • I Peter 3:11
    • James 2:16
    • Ephesians 2:14-15
    • Proverbs 21:19; 19:13
    • Proverbs 17:14 – Take steps before a quarrel breaks out.
    • Proverbs 4:7 – A peaceful marriage helps strengthen us.
  • Patience
    • Romans 9:22
    • Romans 2:4
    • Ephesians 5:27
  • Kindness
    • Ephesians 2:7
    • Colossians 3:12
    • Romans 2:4
    • I Peter 3:1
    • Romans 11:22
  • Goodness
    • Ephesians 5:7
    • Proverbs 14:34
  • Faithfulness
    • Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
  • Meekness
    • Matthew 11:29
    • I Peter 3:4
  • Self-control
    • Self-control is to have power over self.

Godly Families, Part 7

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By David Watson

Benchley, September 4, 2016

  • Men: lead and sacrifice with love (continued)
    • A father must lead his children (continued)
      • Fathers are specifically warned about exasperating their children. Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 4:26; James 3:9
      • Beware of hypocrisy. Matthew 23:3
        • If you don’t want your child to do something, don’t do it yourself.
        • Lead by example. The best way to raise children who are atheists and agnostics is to be a hypocrite.
      • Don’t be preoccupied with money or a career. Luke 12:15-23; 16:13; I Timothy 6:10-11
      • Don’t expect surrogates to fulfill your responsibilities.
        • Fathers must do more than just earn a paycheck. I Timothy 3:4-5
          • Consider the work an elder would be doing. Titus 1:9; Hebrews 13:17; I Peter 5:2-3
        • Women: love your husbands, love your children
          • A wife is responsible for subjecting herself to her husband.
            • Genesis 3:16; Ephesians 5:22-33; Titus 2:4-5
          • Submitting to a leader does not mean one is inferior in value.
            • Woman was created to be man’s “helper.” Genesis 2:18-20
              • Who is called a helper in Psalms 115:9-11 and John 14:26?
            • Likewise, man being called her “head” does not mean she is less valuable, either.
              • I Corinthians 11:3; Philippians 2:5-8
            • A wife is of equal value but must fill her role as a helper, letting her husband fill his role as the head.