Husband – Head of Wife

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, May 15, 2016

  • Introduction
    • Genesis 2 – the institution of marriage
    • I Corinthians 11:9
    • Ephesians 5:22, 25
    • Genesis 16 – Sarah tried to take the lead.
  • What characteristics and attitudes should a husband have exercising his role as head?
    • Ephesians 5 – Be more concerned about his wife’s welfare than his own.
  • What types of decisions should a husband make (financial, spiritual, discipline, etc.)?
    • The husband should take the lead in all decisions. It is more a question of how he leads in making those decisions.
    • I Timothy 3:5
    • As long as the wife’s wishes are in accordance with God’s will, the husband should give them due consideration. The same goes for the wife with regard to the husband’s wishes.
  • What about a situation where the wife is a stronger personality than the husband?
    • The husband should try to shore up his personality and take the lead.
    • The wife should submit to him and encourage him to take the lead.
    • If the husband still won’t take the lead, the marriage is in trouble. She will have to take the lead in some things for the good of the family, but that will be his sin and not hers.
  • What about a situation where the husband takes the wrong lead?
    • In this case she must obey God rather than her husband. Acts 4:19; 5:29
  • Considering the things that were specifically mentioned:
    • Financial: Husband must take the lead to keep the family solvent.
    • Spiritual: Husband must take the lead in encouraging the family to serve the Lord.
    • Discipline: Husband must take the lead in disciplining children the proper way.  The husband and wife should both be consistent in this, but if one won’t discipline, the other must for the good of the children.

Address from the Elders

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By David Watson, Ed Whitt, Danny Lackey, and Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, May 15, 2016

  • David Watson’s remarks:
    • Good leadership will seek the approval of God.
      • Joshua 9:3-14, 16-18
      • Titus 1:5-9; Acts 6:3
    • Ed Whitt’s remarks:
      • We should always be unified on our love for God.
    • Danny Lackey’s remarks:
      • I Peter 5:2
      • II Thessalonians 3:6
      • Hebrews 13:17
    • Jesse Jenkins’ remarks:
      • Benchley timeline:
        • First meeting: October 23, 1994 in Joe and Sherri Harding’s home.  21 people were in attendance.  Bob McDonald was the first preacher.
        • May 15, 1996: Jesse and Marie Jenkins moved to Benchley.  Jesse took over preaching from Bob McDonald.
        • 2003: David and Nicole Watson moved to Benchley.  David begins preaching alongside Jesse Jenkins.
        • Early 2000: First elders appointed (Jesse Jenkins, Joe Harding, and Mike Fleming)
      • I Timothy 5:19-20 – Elders watch for the flock and the flock watch out for the elders.

Holy Spirit Made Overseers

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By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, February 28, 2016

  • Acts 14:23; Titus 1:5
  • Acts 20:28
  • Men that desire the work
  • Men that meet the qualifications to a high degree
    • I Timothy 3:1-7; Titus 1:5-9; I Peter 5:2
    • Elder, bishop, overseer, shepherd
  • Men that understand their assigned work
  • Men that do their assigned work
    • Teaching the flock – elders don’t have to do all the teaching, but they do oversee the teaching.
  • Men that understand the “rule” of elders
    • Hebrews 13:17; Matthew 20:25-28
  • Men that lead the flock
  • Mean that are examples worthy to be imitated

By Jesse Jenkins

Benchley, February 14, 2016

  • Proverbs 21:9, 19; 27:15
  • It is necessary for a wife to be in subjection and it is necessary for a husband to help his wife be in subjection.
    • Ephesians 5:22
  • A certain kind of husband is part of Ephesians 5:22.
    • Take care of your family.
    • Lead your family.
    • I Timothy 3:5; 5:8
  • Two things a husband can do to cause his wife to be in subjection:
    • Show spiritual leadership.
      • Matthew 6:33 – A spiritual leader seeks God first.
      • What kind of leader are you as a husband?
    • Show leadership in decision making.
  • Proverbs 18:22
  • Proverbs 19:14

By Ed Whitt

Benchley, July 12, 2015

  • Follow, continued:
    • Follower qualities, skills, traits (continued):
      • Courage – Ezra 10:2-4
      • Service – Luke 9:43-48; 1:38; James 1:1
      • Communication – II Kings 5:11-14
      • Competence – II Timothy 2:15
      • Confidence – I John 2:28
      • Stable/sober – Titus 1:8; 2:2, 4, 6
      • Engagement – I John 4:9; John 8:12; Matthew 5:14-16; Mark 16:15
    • Speak
      • Old Testament
        • 354 time (spoke 431 times – history)
        • 39 Jeremiah, 38 Psalms, 32 Numbers
      • New Testament
        • Speak or spoke 194 times
        • 43 John, 32 Acts and I Corinthians; 15 Matthew
        • 104 in the gospels
      • Old Testament words (Hebrew)
        • דָּבַר (dāḇǎr) – to arrange words; to declare; to promise; rehearse or say; to teach
          • Exodus 6:!1
        • אָמַר (ʾāmǎr) – to say; to answer
          • Jeremiah 28:5
        • New Testament words (Greek)
          • λαλέω (laleō) – to talk; to utter words; to preach; to say
            • Matthew 10:20
          • λέγω (legō) – to lay forth or relate, to call, describe, name or speak
            • John 18:31-32 (John 12:32; 3:14)
          • Eleven other words used; two twice
            • Mark 9:39 – two words in combination
          • Past tense vs. present tense
          • Scripture contains records of speech
            • Much of “speech” denotes God speaking.
            • Many passages record people speaking
            • Some record things spoken by angels
          • Much is in historical context
          • Some is in instructional context
          • God speaks
            • Old Testament
              • Directly – Genesis 8:15; 9:8
              • Through angels – Judges 2:1-4
              • Through prophets – I Kings 16:12

 

By Ed Whitt

Benchley, July 5, 2015

  • Follow, continued:
    • Follower qualities, skills, and traits (continued):
      • Courage – Ezra 10:2-4
      • Service – Luke 9:43-48; 1:38; James 1:1
      • Communication – II Kings 5:11-14
      • Competence – II Timothy 2:15
      • Confidence – I John 2:28

Word of the Day, Part 7

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By Ed Whitt

Benchley, June 28, 2015

  • Follow:
    • How does following resemble leading?
    • What differentiates a good follower from a bad follower?
    • What are some examples in scripture?
    • How can we make ourselves better followers?
    • Old Testament Hebrew terms:
      • אַחַר (ʾǎḥǎr) – the hind part; generally used as an adverb
        • Often used in combination with another word which specifies its proper use.
        • I Kings 18:21; Ezekiel 13:3
      • הָלַךְ (hālǎḵ) – to walk (literally and figuratively); along, apace, behave one’s self
        • Deuteronomy 13:4; Leviticus 20:23
        • Uses:
          • Pursue (with hostile intent) – Jeremiah 48:2
          • To pursue (without hostile intent) – Jeremiah 18:12
          • To follow along – Exodus 13:2
          • To follow as a disciple or devotee – Deuteronomy 13:4
        • New Testament Greek
          • ἀκολουθέω (akoloutheō) – to be in the same way with; to be a follower (specifically as a disciple)
            • Matthew 9:9; Luke 22:10
          • μιμέομαι (mimeomai) – to imitate
            • II Thessalonians 3:7-9
          • Special combination
            • ὀπίσω (opisō) – to the back, aback – with –
            • δεῦτε (deute) – imperative: come hither, come follow
            • Matthew 4:19
          • Modifications on ἀκολουθέω (akoloutheō):
            • ἐξακολουθέω (exakoloutheō) – follow up or out to the end – Matthew 4:25
            • ἐπακολουθέω (epakoloutheō) – follow after or close upon – I Peter 2:21
            • κατακολουθέω (katakoloutheō) – follow closely behind or intently after – Acts 16:17
            • παρακολουθέω (parakoloutheō) – accompany side by side – Mark 16:17
            • συνακολουθέω (synakoloutheō) – follow along with; accompany a leader – Mark 5:37
          • Is following important?
            • Deuteronomy 13:4; Acts 11:26
              • What is a disciple?
              • What is a Christian?
              • Does a Christian follow?
            • What does much of the “Christian” world teach?
              • Does grace exclude following?
              • Does teaching that we should follow degrade grace?
              • What does it mean to follow?
            • Follower qualities, skills, and traits
              • Embrace vision of leadership – II Thessalonians 2:13-15
              • Integrity – Ephesians 4:14-16

Word of the Day, Part 6

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By Ed Whitt

Benchley, June 21, 2015

  • Lead, continued:
    • Kinds of leadership, continued:
      • Leading poorly
        • Bad leadership:
          • Vision – I Kings 12:26-30
          • Direction – Jeremiah 23:1-4
          • Motivation – II Peter 2:1-3
        • Unskilled leadership
          • Relation – Jonah 3:3-4:3
          • Communication – II Samuel 23:14-17
          • Timing of action – Exodus 14:5-8
        • Things that lead:
          • “This” leads to “that”
            • Luke 21:10-12
            • II Timothy 2:14-15
            • II Timothy 2:16
            • II Timothy 3:14-15
            • Proverbs 19:23
            • Matthew 7:13-14
          • Follow

Word of the Day, Part 5

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By Ed Whitt

Benchley, June 14, 2015

  • Lead, continued:
    • Leadership qualities, skills, traits (continued)
      • Vision – Philippians 3:14
      • Service – Matthew 20:25-28
      • Communication – Ephesians 4:29
        • Revelation 2:1-7 is a good example of how to deliver constructive criticism: tell them what they are doing well, tell them what they are doing wrong, and then encourage.
      • Competence – II Timothy 2:15
      • Confidence – I Samuel 17:45
      • Commitment – Romans 12:1-2
      • Stable/sober – I Corinthians 16:13; I Peter 1:13
      • Engagement – John 3:16; Matthew 5:16
    • Kinds of leadership
      • Leading well
        • Good leadership
          • Vision – II Corinthians 4:16-18
          • Direction – I Timothy 1:16
          • Motivation – I Thessalonians 2:4
        • Skilled leadership
          • Relation – Hebrews 4:15: Jesus can relate to us!
          • Communication – Psalms 19:1-11: God communicates what we need to know.
          • Timing of action – Hebrews 5:12

 

By Ed Whitt

Benchley, June 7, 2015

  • Lead and follow, continued:
    • Hebrew words, continued:
      • יָצָא yatsa
        • To go or bear out; break out; bring forth, out or up
        • Psalms 68:6; Numbers 27:17
      • נָהַג nahag
        • To drive forth a person, an animal or chariot, that is, lead or carry away
        • Isaiah 49:10; Deuteronomy 4:27
      • New Testament
        • Like in Old Testament, multiple terms
        • Not always translated “lead”
        • Man root word
          • ἄγω agō: to bear, bring, carry, lead
          • Mark 13:11 (KJV)
          • Romans 2:4
        • Other Greek words from ἄγω agō:
          • ἀνάγω anagō: to lead up, Matthew 4:1
          • ἀπάγω apagō: to lead away, Mark 14:44
          • περιάγω periagō: to lead about, I Corinthians 9:5
          • εἰσάγω eisagō: to be led into, Acts 21:37
          • ἐξάγω exagō: to be led out, John 10:3
          • συναπάγω sunapagō; being led away with II Peter 3:17 (KJV)
        • Specific words vs. ideas of leading
          • Concepts of leadership abundant
        • Usage:
          • Leading is noted as:
            • Who is leading (actor)
            • Who or what is being led (object)
            • How it is done (method or guide)
            • Destination
          • Who leads?
            • God leads
              • Isaiah 48:17
              • II Corinthians 2:14
            • His appointed leaders lead
              • Isaiah 63:11-12 (KJV)
              • Psalms 78:70-72
            • Civil authorities lead
              • Romans 13:1
            • Individuals lead
              • Proverbs 12:26
            • What individuals lead?
            • Leadership qualities, skills, traits
              • Integrity – Hebrews 13:8
              • Courage – John 18:4-6
              • Focus – Colossians 3:2
              • Vision – Philippians 3:14
              • Service – Matthew 20:25-28
              • Communication – Ephesians 4:29
              • Competence – II Timothy 2:15
              • Confidence
              • Commitment
              • Stable/sober
              • Engagement