Godly Families, Part 26

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 26, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: train children to develop moral excellence (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Live with humility Numbers 12:3; Matthew 18:1-4; I Peter 5:5-6 Humility is not weakness (Jesus, Moses).  Train to think “what can I learn?” not “I’m perfect” False idea:  good parenting = constant praise Pride, bragging.  Feelings often hurt because view of self is too high.

Godly Families, Part 25

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 19, 2017

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Godly Families, Part 24

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 12, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training child to respect and obey authority (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Submit (in non-sinful matters) Romans 13:1-2; Ephesians 5:21-22, 25, 33 Show humility and good attitude toward authorities; enforce authority over kids. East to let things slide because they don’t bother me – but kids need the lesson. Disrespect, disobedience, bad attitudes (backtalk, eye rolling, etc.)
Lead well Deuteronomy 17:18-20; Matthew 20:25-28 Teach leadership by example, serving those led; giving small opportunities to lead. Use authority for selfishness; good, exemplary leaders hard to find. Exploiting opportunities for self.
Respect and obey God Isaiah 66:1-2; Acts 26:19 Fear God instead of just “going to church”; make a habit:  read Bible –> improve life Easy to just follow religious peers / traditions instead of God Himself. Rationalizing bad behaviors.
  • Train children to develop moral excellence
    • II Peter 1:5-11
      • Is it the job of public schools to teach these virtues?
      • How do we know when we have enough of these qualities?
      • Qualities:
        • Faith
        • Moral excellence (virtue)
        • Knowledge
        • Self-control (temperance) – Marshmallow Test
        • Perseverance (patience, steadfastness) – patience with our circumstances
        • Godliness
        • Brotherly kindness
        • Love – agape; affectionate goodwill
    • Teaching morals is unique
      • Teaching morals begins with the Word of God. II Timothy 3:16

 

Godly Families, Part 21

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 22, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Study the Bible II Timothy 2:14-15; Acts 17:11; Mark 12:10 Answer some kid questions with, “I need to study that”; comment on cross references, translations, content, harmony, and figures. Quicker and easier to read commentary.  Are useful, but should never replace Bible study. Don’t want to do class lessons with any depth.  Attitude: “study is for adults”
Use the Bible as a guide through life Psalm 119:9-11; James 1:21-25 Exemplify change based on Bible; guide kids’ application of Word by making plans, motivating, accountability. Change is hard!  Easier to go with flow.  Takes mature faith to trust text over friends/society. Hypocrisy:  sermon on speech … continue bad words.
Defend the Bible Hebrews 2:1-4; I Thessalonians 2:13 Be open and honest about science, creation, Bible, evidence, etc.; http://ApologeticsPress.org We’re not historians / scientists / archaeologists … “Just believe it!”; Afraid to investigate. “There’s no proof.  Everybody  just chooses what to believe.”
Use the Bible to teach others II Timothy 3:16-17; Acts 18:25-26 Exemplify ways to bring up Bible in conversations; practice – “How would you explain ___ to someone?” Laziness – a good spiritual comment only comes after developing knowledge, thought, courage. “Well, I think …” instead of “the Bible teaches …”

 

Godly Families, Part 20

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 15, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others (continued):
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Love enemies Matthew 5:41-45; Luke 23:34; Romans 12:14-21; I Peter 3:8-9 When someone hates, respond with love; “Remember he has a soul.” Not natural – must be deliberate choice. Revenge, hatred
  • Train children to know God’s word
    • Hosea 4:6
    • What was going on in the first century?
      • Acts 18:1-18
    • Luke 17:20-21 – The kingdom of Christ is in the hearts of men.
    • The story of Corinth is representative of the overall movement recorded in Acts:
      • Acts 1:1
      • Acts 4:2
      • Acts 5:21
      • Acts 5:28
      • Acts 5:42
      • Acts 11:26
      • Acts 13:1
      • Acts 15:35
      • Acts 17:19
      • Acts 20:20
      • Acts 28:31
    • 1st century: tons of teaching about Word à Many people believed with zeal and passion!
    • 21st century: the same will happen!
    • Do you suppose it will work for our kids?
    • When you start making an excuse for yourself, remember Timothy!
      • Grew up in Lystra, which was full of heathens. Acts 16:1-2
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to know God’s word
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Genuinely love the Bible Psalm 119; Mark 4:3-20 Look forward to Bible reading and teaching; talk about its benefits If we’re not actively applying and teaching, it’s hard to read.  Appreciate its treasures! Read the news, novels, sports, homework, etc. all the time … and the Bible a few minutes on Sunday
Read the Bible Psalm 1; I Corinthians 14:19 (point is to read and understand) Read it yourself!  Read together or aloud.  Help through difficulties in habit forming, understanding Be aware; judgment needed with translations and paraphrases Reading it just to check a box.

Godly Families, Part 19

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 8, 2017

  • Introduction
    • What about marrying yourself or inanimate objects?
    • Leviticus 18:22-25 – Warning against perverting God’s marriage plan.
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love others
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Be generous Luke 10:30-37; Ephesians 4:28 Budged for others; Speak of others’ needs Consumer culture; prosperity; constant ads When gets money, never thinks of others
Forgive like God Nehemiah 9:16-17; Luke 23:33-34; Matthew 18:21-35 Stop holding grudges; truly forgive children; Explain: “I’ve needed forgiveness myself many times.” It’s hard to forgive!  Peers may encourage revenge. Bitterness
Serve like Christ Matthew 20:25-28; Luke 17:7-10; John 13:12-15 View self as servant; point out opportunities to serve; praise service like we would performance. Not valued by many, must be taught at home; me-first culture Lack of initiative for others; habit of expecting others to do for self.
Encourage others I Thessalonians 2:8-12; Acts 11:23-24; II Corinthians 2:6-8 Encourage the child; Make aware: “He looks like he needs some encouragement.”; “Thank you for saying that to him.” Easy to kick someone when they’re down; too busy to even notice others’ problems. “He wouldn’t do the same for me.”
Speak the truth in love Ephesians 4:15, 29; Proverbs 15:1-4 Read Bible prophets and preachers; explain effort it takes (“I’m trying to word this email to …”). Tempers flare; we don’t know what to say due to little practice, Bible knowledge Insults, gossip, meanness

 

Godly Families, Part 18

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 1, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love God (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Find peace, contentment, and joy in God Proverbs 2:1-10; II Corinthians 1:1-7; I Timothy 6:17-18 Live for God instead of just “going to church”; train attitude to revolve around spiritual truths. Emotions revolve around peers, fashion, sports, grades, entertainment Knows sports stats or latest hairstyles, hasn’t prayed since Sunday …
Prioritize God over peers, career, wealth … James 4:4; Matthew 16:24-26; I timothy 6:6-11 “Did you make God happy today?” > “What grade did you make on …” YouTube kid!  Busy schedules Cares about school, not about Bible class.

 

  • Train children to love others
    • Love your neighbor as yourself
      • This is the second greatest command (Matthew 22:39)!
      • Suppose Barnabas was your dad (Acts 4:36-37; 11:22-26; 15:2)
        • Would you grow up thinking he loved others?
        • Would you grow up learning how to love others yourself?
      • Take God’s perspective
        • What do the following passages teach about how to view our fellow humans?
          • Genesis 1:26-27
          • Genesis 9:6
          • Jonah 4:11
          • Acts 17:24-29
          • I Peter 3:7
        • Consider the contrast with how Adolf Hitler viewed human life.
      • Brothers and sisters in Christ should hold a special place in our hearts.
        • I Corinthians 8:11-13; II Corinthians 12:19-20; I Peter 4:8-10; I John 4:20 – 5:2

Fruitful Families

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By Jady Stevens

Benchley, December 18, 2016

  • Love
    • I Corinthians 13:4-7
  • Joy
    • Response to events
      • Luke 15:8-11
      • I Corinthians 13:6
      • James 1:2
    • Motivates to action
      • II Corinthians 8:2
      • III John 1:4 – This should be the greatest joy from our children.
    • Peace
      • Freedom from disturbance, fighting, or war.
      • In spite of circumstances.
      • Takes effort.
      • Hand in hand with unity.
        • Ephesians 2:14-15; 4:3
      • Protects us.
    • Patience
      • Enduring in anticipation of a preferred outcome.
        • Romans 9:22; 2:4
      • Undergirded by faith.
        • Hebrews 6:12
      • Kindness
        • Also, gentleness
        • Allied with grace, compassion, humility, patience, tolerance.
          • Ephesians 2:7; Colossians 3:12; Romans 2:4
        • Contrast to severity
          • Romans 11:22
        • Goodness
          • Doing what is pleasing to the Lord
          • With righteousness and truth.
            • Ephesians 5:7-11
          • Faithfulness
            • Love believes all things
              • I Corinthians 13:7
            • Faith can be seen, works through love.
              • Matthew 9:2; Galatians 5:6
            • Faith toward God, holding to THE faith.
          • Gentleness
            • Meekness, humility, as seen in Jesus
              • Matthew 11:29
            • Not just for wives!
              • I Peter 3:4
            • Contrasted with a rod, boldness
              • I Corinthians 4:21; II Corinthians 10:1-2
            • Restore one caught in trespass with gentleness.
              • Galatians 6:1
            • Self-control
              • In power / strength / might / dominion
                • Luke 1:51; Ephesians 6:10; I Peter 4:11 – ascribed to Jesus
              • Having power over self
              • One who demands every whim be fulfilled is not strong, but lead by desires in weakness.

Godly Families, Part 17

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 11, 2016

  • Train children to love God (continued):
    • We must instill the proper motivation (continued):
      • Genesis 39:9
      • What’s wrong with just raising our kids to know that if they misbehave, they’ll be punished?
    • Love God yourself!
      • Parents should set the example. Proverbs 20:7; Matthew 7:5; II Timothy 1:5
      • Let us be as noble in our parenting as Jesus was in his leadership. Hebrews 4:15; I Peter 2:21
      • Deuteronomy 6:5-7 – This is directed to parents!
    • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to love God.
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Care deeply about pleasing God (conscience) Genesis 39:9; II Corinthians 1:12; Acts 9:9 Worship 7 days a week; plan careers, recreation, schedules around God Family discussions and priorities rarely center on God; God is a Sunday topic “It’s okay – I won’t get caught.”
Pray without ceasing Romans 12:12; I Thessalonians 5:17; James 5:13-18; Matthew 6:5-7 Pray sincerely; more than at meals (like when something happens); pray topically. Praying only when in trouble.  Meaningless repetition. Praying in vain, not meaning what you say or useless repetition.  Never praying; making prayer a joke.
Repent when wrong Acts 26:20; Matthew 12:41; Jonah 3:8-10 Openly repent when you have wronged others (especially kids). Holding out for someone else to initiate.  No self-evaluation & self-awareness. Not really apologizing or not admitting guilt in the first place.  Insincerity.
Joyfully worship and praise God John 4:23-24; Colossians 3:16; Psalm 100; 122; Philippians 4:4; Acts 16:25 Be happy to go to worship.  Encourage the same in children.  Worship outside the assembly. Worshiping out of necessity.  Daydreaming; too many toys; trained not to participate. Not being joyful.  Not focusing in worship.   Indifferent; complaining.

Godly Families, Part 16

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 4, 2016

  • Train children to pursue Biblical goals (continued):
    • Don’t commit “The Eli Mistake”
    • The more consistent we are, the better
      • Numbers 23:19 – God is perfectly consistent, but that doesn’t mean He never changed His plans.
      • Galatians 1:6-9
    • Clear, specific instructions are helpful.
      • Proverbs 7:1, 6-10, 17-27
    • Discipline should be appropriate, but severe enough to make a difference.
      • Remember the final goal of discipline. Hebrews 12:11
    • Look for opportunities to develop character starting at birth, and enrich these over time.
      • Ecclesiastes 12:1
      • II Timothy 3:15
      • I Samuel 17:42-45
      • II Chronicles 34:3
    • Teaching: God is powerful
      • Hebrews 1:3; Colossians 1:17
  • Train children to love God
    • Examples of faith
      • Noah – Genesis 6:9
      • Job – Job 2:3
      • David – Acts 13:22; Psalms 18:1
      • Abraham – James 2:23
      • These me all believed God was with them all the time, loved Him, and wanted to serve Him.
    • We must instill the proper motivation.
      • What’s wrong with just raising our kids to know that if they misbehave, they will be punished?