Godly Families, Part 24

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 12, 2017

  • (Grand)parenting applications: training child to respect and obey authority (continued)
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Submit (in non-sinful matters) Romans 13:1-2; Ephesians 5:21-22, 25, 33 Show humility and good attitude toward authorities; enforce authority over kids. East to let things slide because they don’t bother me – but kids need the lesson. Disrespect, disobedience, bad attitudes (backtalk, eye rolling, etc.)
Lead well Deuteronomy 17:18-20; Matthew 20:25-28 Teach leadership by example, serving those led; giving small opportunities to lead. Use authority for selfishness; good, exemplary leaders hard to find. Exploiting opportunities for self.
Respect and obey God Isaiah 66:1-2; Acts 26:19 Fear God instead of just “going to church”; make a habit:  read Bible –> improve life Easy to just follow religious peers / traditions instead of God Himself. Rationalizing bad behaviors.
  • Train children to develop moral excellence
    • II Peter 1:5-11
      • Is it the job of public schools to teach these virtues?
      • How do we know when we have enough of these qualities?
      • Qualities:
        • Faith
        • Moral excellence (virtue)
        • Knowledge
        • Self-control (temperance) – Marshmallow Test
        • Perseverance (patience, steadfastness) – patience with our circumstances
        • Godliness
        • Brotherly kindness
        • Love – agape; affectionate goodwill
    • Teaching morals is unique
      • Teaching morals begins with the Word of God. II Timothy 3:16

 

Ageism

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 5, 2017

  • II Samuel 19:31-39 – Barzillai the Gileadite
  • God says there is value in age, so we need to get over ageism.
    • Proverbs 16:31; 20:29
    • I Timothy 5:1-3, 9-10; 3:6
    • Leviticus 19:32
  • Let’s put this into practice!
    • Advice from a few wise voices at Benchley …
    • Philippians 3:17; Titus 2:2-5
    • Marriage
      • Genesis 2:24
    • Parenting
      • Proverbs 29:15
      • Colossians 3:21
    • General advice
      • James 2:1-4, 8-9
      • Colossians 4:6

Godly Families, Part 23

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By David Watson

Benchley, February 5, 2017

  • Train children to respect and obey authority (continued):
    • Consider the following views (continued):
      • “I love my child too much to discipline him/her”
        • Hebrews 12:7-8
        • Proverbs 13:24
      • “Wait till your father gets home!” or “Wait till your mother gets home!”
        • Proverbs 1:8
        • Proverbs 19:26
        • Ephesians 6:1-3
  • (Grand)parenting applications: training children to respect and obey authority
Specific Goal Passage(s) to discuss & guide Ways (grand)parents can exemplify and teach Temptations and hindrances Behaviors to correct
Reject the entitlement mentality Luke 17:7-10; Philippians 4:11-12; II Thessalonians 3:10 Work hard; don’t expect bosses to give you special handouts Culture of low expectations and little work ethic; lazy parents “Gimme gimme gimme!”
Listen well II Kings 17:13-14; Proverbs 2:1ff; 12:15; 18:13, 17 Model active listening; have them explain what you just said. Distracted, disinterested, planning what to say Interrupting
Be respectful and considerate in a disagreement Acts 18:4; 26:24-25 Let kids observe you settling disputes properly; don’t jump in and settle every conflict for them. Impatience, selfishness Tendency not to share, negotiate, compromise

 

Godly Families, Part 22

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By David Watson

Benchley, January 29, 2017

  • Train children to respect and obey authority
    • Preparing for God
      • II Corinthians 5:10
      • Our job as parents is to teach God’s standards – not our standards.
      • Matthew 25:41, 46
      • Romans 1:30 – disobedience to parents is listed as a sin! See also II Timothy 3:2; Titus 2:11-12; 3:1-3
      • Where is a child supposed to learn about authority? At home!
      • I Timothy 3:4 – One piece of evidence that a man is a good father is that he keeps his children under control with all dignity.
    • Spanking – proven bad by science?
      • Robert Larzelere, Oklahoma State University
        • Optimal type of discipline: conditional spanking
      • Consider the following views:
        • “Our family believes in love, negotiation, and cooperation – not tyranny. We talk to our kids instead of punishing them.”
          • Hebrews 12:7-11
          • This is a false dichotomy!
        • “Kids should shut up and stay out of the way, or else!”
          • Ephesians 6:4; II Timothy 3:14

Christmas

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By David Watson

Benchley, December 11, 2016

  • Acts 17:10
  • We should only engage in authorized worship.
    • John 4:24
    • II John 9
    • Genesis 4:3-5
      • Hebrews 11:4
      • Romans 10:17
    • Golden calf – Exodus 32:5
    • Leviticus 10:1-2
    • I Kings 12:28, 32
  • Christmas is not authorized as a religious observance in the Bible.
    • It wasn’t until the 4th century that the birth of Jesus became associated with December 25.
  • We may engage in cultural practices that do not involve unauthorized worship.
    • Circumcision
      • Galatians 5:1-6; 2:3-5
      • Acts 16:3; 15:1-2
      • Okay, but not as a religious practice.
    • If there is some practice rooted in religion, and which some people still practice religiously, I can observe it secularly.
    • Two people may observe the same basic practice, but one is right and one is not because of their intent.
    • Eating of meats
      • I Corinthians 8:1-8
      • I Corinthians 10:14-27
      • Okay, but not when connected to idols.
  • Some of us will disagree on how we should engage with customs of the world.
    • Can we say “Christmas” (Christ Mass)?
      • Baal could mean husband. Proverbs 31:11
      • “Twin Brothers” (Acts 28:11)
      • Hanukkah (John 10:22-23)
    • Can I rest on Saturday without observing the Sabbath as a religious practice as Seventh Day Adventists do?
    • Can I eat fish on Fridays without it being a religious practice?
  • Don’t do anything that would violate your conscience.
    • Romans 14:14, 22-23
  • Don’t put a stumbling block in front of others.
    • Romans 14:1-6, 13-15, 21
    • I Corinthians 8:9-13
    • I Corinthians 10:27-31
  • Specific questions:
    • Star on tree
    • Gifts
    • Songs/carols about Christ

Godly Families, Part 14

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By David Watson

Benchley, November 20, 2016

  • Parents: radically commit to tender love and tough love (continued):
    • Employ a radical amount of tough love (continued):
      • Do whatever it takes (continued):
        • What principles should we learn from these passages? (continued)
          • Ecclesiastes 8:11
          • Hebrews 12:4-11
        • Further points about discipline
          • Be different from popular culture. Romans 12:2
          • Enforce the word “no.” Ephesians 6:1-2
          • Don’t be afraid to cross your child. II Samuel 18:5, 33-19:7; I Kings 1:5-6
        • Say whatever it takes.
          • God’s ways of communicating with people.
            • God informed people of his rules and expectations. Genesis 3:3; Deuteronomy 30:15-20
            • He encouraged them to avoid trouble. Genesis 4:6-7
            • He warned them of punishment if they didn’t change. Jonah 3:1-4
            • He nurtured and loved them. Hosea 11:1-4
            • He reminded them to learn from mistakes of others. Zechariah 1:1-6
            • He rebuked. II Samuel 2:7
          • Are there some pitfalls parents should avoid?
            • Assuming kids know better. Deuteronomy 6:6-9
            • Detaching the Bible from real life. James 1:22

Modern Day Towers of Babel

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By Scott L. Lasater

Benchley, October 30, 2016

  • Genesis 11:1-9
  • Modern day towers of Babel:
    • The search for the origin of the universe.
      • The discovery of cosmic background radiation
      • Large Hadron Collider findings
      • Genesis 1
    • Transgender rights
      • Genesis 1:26-31; 2:20-25; Matthew 19:4
    • Abortion
      • Matthew 18:1-6; Jeremiah 1:4-5; Exodus 21:22-23; 23:7
    • Police officer killings
      • Romans 13:1-7; I Peter 2:13-17
    • Matthew 5:1-10

Making Benchley Like Antioch

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By David Watson

Benchley, March 13, 2016

  • Revelation 3
  • Acts 11:19-30
  • Do I stick to God’s Word?
    • Acts 11:20; 15:1 ff
    • Acts 14:27-15:3
    • Acts 11:26
    • Acts 15:35
  • Am I truly converted to the Lord?
    • Acts 11:20-24
    • Are we converted to the Lord or to a habit or tradition?
  • Am I actively living for Christ?
    • Acts 11:27-30
    • I John 2:3-6; 1:6
    • I John 3:7
  • Do I rejoice about spiritual things?
    • Acts 15:31
    • Acts 8:3-4 – Saul persecuted Christians.
    • Acts 11:23 – Barnabas rejoiced
    • Acts 8:39 – The Ethiopian rejoiced
    • Acts 13:48
    • Acts 16:34
    • When’s the last time you cared enough about spiritual things to rejoice?

By David Watson

Benchley, November 22, 2015

  • II John 9
  • I Corinthians 14:23
  • Because we don’t have Bible authority for it.
    • II John 9 – We don’t want to go outside the teaching of Christ.
    • Galatians 1:8; Colossians 3:17
    • What local churches did in the New Testament
      • Churches provided for the teaching and preaching of the gospel.
        • Philippians 4:14-18
      • Churches provided for worship and spiritual edification.
        • I Corinthians 16:1-2; 14:26; 11:17-22, 33-34
      • Churches provided for needy Christians.
        • Acts 4:32-35; 6:1-4
        • See a pattern? Acts 2:44-45; 4:32-35; 6:1-3; 11:27-30; Romans 15:25-26; I Corinthians 16:1-3; II Corinthians 8, 9; I Timothy 5:16, 5
        • Were there no other needy people in Jerusalem – just Christians? There were, but that was outside the scope of the work of the church.
      • Because we have something better to offer!
        • Philippians 1:27 – This is what a church should be doing!
        • I Thessalonians 1:8
        • I Timothy 5:3-5, 16 – Churches are not to be distracted with lesser works. Families are obligated to help their own first.
        • Acts 6:2, 4
        • Individual Christians can and should be engaged in all kinds of good deeds! Luke 10:33-37; James 1:27
        • Jesus Himself helped so many people in both physical and spiritual ways, so why didn’t He authorize churches to help the world in physical ways? John 6:10-14, 24-35, 48-51.  Jesus came to serve a greater purpose than feeding people.

By Larry Bunch

Benchley, February 1, 2015

  • Disapproved authority: human and/or devilish
    • James 3:15; Matthew 15:7-9; I Corinthians 1:18-26
  • Approved authority: God’s wisdom
    • I Corinthians 1:18-26; 2:10-12; II John 1:9-11
  • Direct operation of the Holy Spirit on apostles and prophets: Ephesians 3:3-5
    • Results in the Word of God being revealed
  • Methods of authority:
    • Direct authority:
      • Command – I Corinthians 11:24
      • Statement – I Corinthians 11:26; Mark 16:16
    • Indirect authority:
      • Necessary inference – Acts 20:7 (compare Exodus 20:8; I Corinthians 16:2 – every first day or every Sabbath was to be observed)
      • Approved, limiting example – Just because Paul walked doesn’t mean we can’t drive or fly in an airplane.
        • I Corinthians 16:1-2 – collection authorized and limited
        • Acts 20:7 – Lord’s Supper authorized and limited
        • When is an approved example limited and restricted?
          • Restricted:
            • Uniformity
            • Harmony
            • Universality
            • Essentiality – Acts 20:7 – eating in the upper story is not essential (John 4:19-24)
            • Limited application
            • Competence
          • The necessity of obedience
            • Matthew 7:21